Ask Joy My fiancé and I are getting married in April. We are working very hard to live for Jesus and make him our first priority and incorporate him into our relationship; however, it is new to both of us. We don’t see eye to eye on something that is bothering me: bachelor/bachelorette parties. He wants to go out with the guys, and I don’t want a party. I feel as though doing a separate party is celebrating being single when you should be celebrating …
Ask Joy Why do nice guys always finish last? I would love to be in a relationship, but I’m known as the “nice guy.” I’m always more like a brother than a boyfriend. Most of my female friends are much more attracted to “bad boys” because there is a sense of danger, which I hear is attractive to women. Do women ever grow out of that feeling, or am I doomed to “always be the groomsman, never the groom”? My Response Thank you …
Ask Joy My name is Dannie and I have recently been listening to your parents’ audio book. I am only 18 and I’ve been with my boyfriend, who is 22, for only a year, but we’ve considered marriage a lot. I know it sounds too young, but it’s just something that’s been on our minds ever since we’ve been together. So here is my question: Within the past year we’ve struggled a lot with communication. The way we argue isn’t the nicest. I have also …
Ask Joy Can friends who “kind of accidentally” hook up, stay friends? My Response (Disclaimer: I blame the weirdness of this video on my friend Lindsay. She was in the room with me and brings it out full force.) Book Recommendation: Hooked by M.D. Joe S. McIlhaney Jr. and M.D. Freda McKissic Bush
Ask Joy What do you think about long-distance relationships? My Response A relationship is either going to work or it isn’t. I don’t think distance should be the one and only deciding factor, but it is a factor. All relationships, short or long distance, will entail different factors that will contribute to your figuring out whether she or he is who you want to keep getting to know. Don’t overthink it. Just give it a shot if you like the person. Bonus: If things don’t …
You should probably go ahead and check out my friend Destiny’s Blog: CLICK HERE TO SEE DESTINY CRAFT HER PANTS you will like her if… 1) you like crafts. 2) people who never capitalize. She’s kind, generous, talented and easily one of the funniest people I know. Oh, and did I mention she dances? Like a machine. Her wedding folks. And yes, her husband IS that cool to do this with her. And lastly, the “early years” of our friendship. Slave labor. (Yes, that’s me …
Ask Joy My fiance says he would rather be loved than respected. If he feels that he does not deserve or need unconditional respect from me, how do I give him that to get the unconditional love that I crave from him? My Response We don’t feel like we need something if we are getting it… Question What are the things you crave in a relationship? Are they purposely withholding what you need, or are they simply a human being who is unable to meet …
Ask Joy I wish my husband would help me discipline our 3 children. Ideas to encourage this behavior? My Response Thank you for thinking I might have some advice…As a single person with no children to put in time out, I will do my best to answer this question based on what I know about male and female dynamics. When I get married, I may eat my words. This initial question popped into my head: Do you trust his leadership and authority as a disciplinarian? …
Ask Joy What do you do when many of the men your age at church seem childish and not ready to pursue marriage? (This answer is given from a Westernized American view.) My Response Find another church that will satisfy your definition of a man. Seriously though, I’m not really sure what you should “do” but here are some of my thoughts on how as a woman you might be able to be an agent of change. *** When someone is believed in, his or …
Ask Joy As a male truly desiring to date with honor and respect, I have found “Christian women” seem to fall pretty quick even without truly knowing or desiring to know who we are on the inside. Why are they so quick to fall for SOMEone instead of the ONE? (I already know the answer-as I am a guy and understand the lack of godly men who lead well and love well). My Response What I would like to know is why tall men are …
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