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I am a 20-year-old woman, in school, working part-time, and dancing every day. I am completely happy with myself, inside and out. The only thing I feel is missing in my life is a relationship.
I’ve actually never been in a relationship. I date, but it falls through every time. I keep searching for this “spark” or connection and seem to be having trouble finding it.
I know I don’t need a guy to make me happy, but I still want to find someone to share my time with. Any advice for a satisfied-but-still-kind-of-lonely girl?
Keep dating! Or expand your unicorn collection, like I have done. Both are equally enjoyable, but the latter is far more valuable on eBay.
When you are lonely, remember that you are not alone. There are lots of lonely people out there, which can be slightly depressing to think about, but also cool in the sense that you can see what God meant when He said He designed us in His image.
He desires to be in contact with us and wants us to desire spending time with Him. We can understand His longing for us as we have our own human desires for relationship.
Friendship or dating relationship, we need people. If someone says they don’t need people, my guess is they have been wounded and put up a wall.
But, like I said in the beginning, keep dating. You may not feel a spark or a connection right away, but give people a chance. That whole “love at first sight” thing isn’t for everyone, so don’t think you are abnormal if your love for someone grows over time.
The reality is, only one person is going to work out—so if dates are offered and you have the desire, go out on them!
When the dates aren’t knocking down your door, think about your loneliness and the void you have. Then think about God and how He desires to be in a relationship with you. One way you can let your relationship with God be manifested in a tangible way is by serving other lonely people. Don’t know any? Pray that God will open your eyes and, I promise, you will see them—and Him.
“‘For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’”
From my heart,
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