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Why did God create men to lust? I hate it that he has to “turn away.”
I suppose it’s because I can’t understand it. I am completely fulfilled with my man. There is zero attraction for me when a hot guy hits on me.
So my question is, why? Is there a purpose? I think if I understood it a bit more in a biblical sense, I wouldn’t find myself taking it so personally.
How many hot guys are hitting on you? Where do you live? Can I move in with you?
I am not a biblical scholar, but the more and more I learn about Scripture, the more I am amazed (sometimes confused) and assured that God is far bigger than I am and man is far more broken than He is. He’s perfect and doesn’t create evil, but He allows it and gives us instructions on how to live in the midst of brokenness.
But I knew that wouldn’t suffice as an answer, so I pulled out the big guns.
I asked my dad.
This was his response:
In the wisdom of God, all good things have the potential for a dark side.
We don’t know why God allowed males and females to struggle with various things. For example, do you as a woman struggle with fear? Are you even fearful in the face of this struggle your man has? Does this fear undermine your faith? Do you become insecure and suspicious? Do you then undermine the very friendship you prize? Remember, perfect love casts out fear according to the apostle John, so is your fear making you into an unloving soul?
You could become a condemning, judgmental woman toward your man, who honestly struggles and is taking every step to remain pure but who will always know he is inches away from seduction unless he stays the course. For you to judge him for his maleness reveals another struggle in your femaleness: self-righteous judgment.
For you, because lust is not a problem, it bothers you that your man struggles here. But he may not struggle with fear, so who is the “worse” person?
In answer to the question, we don’t know why God allows the visual to stimulate males as it does, and that is why he must make a covenant with his eyes, as Job did, and not look upon a woman with lust, as Jesus instructs.
All of us are fallen, sinful creatures who need to look to God for help to follow Him.
My dad of course is playing devil’s advocate and sympathizes with your hurt over this, just as I do. But I think both of us would say that your fear and frustration are real, just as your man’s struggle is real. So what do we do?
A struggle is one thing; letting ourselves act out sinfully on the heels of that struggle is another. We live in brokenness, so we will all struggle. We won’t always know the why, but we do know how Scripture calls us to respond.
That response can bring freedom and faith to our fears – which is why God tells us to trust Him.
It’s difficult for me to trust God in the midst of things I don’t understand so I completely empathize. I would encourage you to pray for your man that he can remain pure in the face of temptation and have your man pray that you can remain at peace (without fear) in the face of trials.
From our hearts,
Joy and Emerson
P.S. If the “hot guys” that are hitting on you happen to look like my favorite J Crew model I really need to find out where you live.
(More on this tomorrow…)
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