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I’m tired of hearing about marriage and men.
Uh, Joy, I thought that was your job, vocation, calling, love, and passion?
It is. And I shouldn’t say tired of it; rather, I am tired of the bad rap men get in articles, shows, and conversations in which the attitude is that marriage is failing, men are failing, the sky is falling, etc.
But, Joy, research shows that marriage is falling apart and that all the good men are gone. The Wall Street Journal said so.
Yes, they did. So now what?
A number of people, including fellow blogger Ally, recently sent me the article “Where Have All the Good Men Gone” and asked for my thoughts. Ally’s article was a catalyst for me to share.
If you haven’t seen my video in Part One yet, check it out. I’ll expand on my video thoughts in the following posts, starting with this:
While articles like this can be true, they can also be unproductive because while they name the problem, they do very little to solve it—and here’s why.
I have hesitations regarding the value and weight we put on what “they” say. I fear the damage that some “research” will have on our culture and the way we label people.
My humble observation about research:
Many researchers have a bias. Researchers can be connected to (or paid by) companies that want their research to show a specific conclusion or that are personally invested in the outcome. This creates a temptation to formulate questions and/or situations in a way that will give the desired outcome.
Most publications don’t give you all the details. The next time you read an article, try to figure out the reputations of the researchers who performed the study, what their sample was, and how many times the research was performed before the results were published. Even academic journals usually save the sample details until the very end.
Research names and defines. This can be good to bring about clarity, but it can also provide a temptation to label, name, and put someone in a box. We love labels for other humans because it helps us make sense of what confuses us, but when you call someone something enough times, he or she will eventually answer to that name.
So here’s my question to you: The problems (true or false) regarding men have been named — a lot.
So now what?
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