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How can I stop from getting emotionally attached to boys on Facebook? It has become a vicious cycle for me with different guys. Please help me!
First I want to honor you for being introspective and aware that this is happening to you. My guess is you’re not alone, but most people aren’t intuitive enough to recognize. Well done.
However, if you believe it’s unhealthy and “vicious,” I think most people would conclude you should shut down Facebook. Trust me, the sun will still come up if people don’t know from your status update that it was “such a beautiful sunrise this morning!”
We are emotional creatures, and getting attached to some degree is normal. Don’t be hard on yourself. But, if you are becoming emotionally attached to men on Facebook who you don’t interact with on a day-to-day basis, it becomes unhealthy. You are setting yourself up for unrealistic triggers to your emotions.
What should trigger your emotions?
A REAL man. Not the idea of that man based off the hot picture he posted of himself holding his new niece at the beach… in his new American Apparel sweatshirt… holding a guitar in his other hand… while the sun is setting… and Catcher in the Rye just happens to be strategically placed on his towel in the background… next to his TOMS shoes.
Oh, and I would also talk to someone who knows you who’s older and wiser—maybe even a counselor—just so you can understand yourself and have insight when a “healthy 3-D” relationship comes along. (No, falling in love with Justin Bieber at his 3-D movie is not the type of “healthy 3-D” I am talking about.)
From my status update loving heart,
P.S. You might find this video I did helpful: “Johnny, Facebook and Porn Oh My!”
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