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Recently I was at a wedding and I spoke with someone for an hour during “mingle time.” You know, that period lasting anywhere from 60-348.2 minutes where the ceremony is done and you are waiting for the bride and groom to arrive.
Post mingle time, I realized during the whole conversation, I had not been asked one question.
Granted, I was asking lots of questions, and I didn’t have a need for the person to ask me any…but I still found it odd. Why?
Because I think it’s revealing where our generation is at and I wonder how developing the art of asking questions, and then genuinely listening to the answers could transform us as humans, daters and hopefully Christians.
Mingle time made me realize that we are developing into a culture of “Me Monsters.” Listen, I love swapping stories, but if you are someone who asks questions, its amazing how much you can get people to share. We sure know how to “share”.
Maybe this is partly due to our lives that are greatly impacted by social media. Even if you don’t use it personally, you are part of a world that does. And that culture will rub off on you. Think about it…
Social media allows for people to tell anything to anyone who will listen. Back in the “olden days” if you wanted to talk, you usually did so with a human being. Questions were asked because there was a curiosity to know.
Curiosity is still part of our human nature, but now we don’t have to ask…we just google or facebook. We don’t have to be asked, we just tweet or status update. And thus, I believe-the art of asking good questions is slowly being lost.
What is not lost, is our deep rooted human desire of wanting to be known.
Don’t fear. These are not problems that have no solution. All we need is a little awareness and practice. There will be a result; I just know it.
…The next two posts we will be discussing the art of asking questions and the art of listening in the context of dating and wise counsel.
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