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Tag Archives: Respect

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Emerson & Sarah Eggerichs on Marriage, Parenting, Family of Origin, Work & Death

Emerson & Sarah Eggerichs

WHAT?! You haven’t met my parents?! A few things to note: Emerson and Sarah only wear black, they’ve been married 40+ years, and when they met, my mother thought my dad was funny looking, dressed weird and wasn’t funny at all. Oh, and they started Love and Respect. Read more

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Gabe & Rebekah Lyons on Starting Q, Starting Fights, & John Travolta

Gabe & Rebekah Lyons

Gabe and Rebekah Lyons are a power couple. They are people who get ISH done. Join me for a conversation with them that ended as though it had only just begun. 

(Well, technically, it did. They left me so their kids wouldn’t be the last ones picked up from gymnastics class. Whatever!) Read more

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Respect Card? Was ist das?

Respect Card?

You didn’t know I spoke German, did you? Yes, I took two long years of it in high school and my last name is German, loud and proud. If you didn’t know, “Was ist das?” translates to “What is that?”

And “eins, zwei, drei” is “one, two, three.” But now we are totally getting off topic. Read more

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He Shuts Me Down: How To Fight To Be an Ally with Your Guy

He Shuts Me Down: How to Fight To Be an Ally With Your Guy

Hey Joy,

My husband and I just heard the Love and Respect message. Now, whenever we get into conflict, he shuts me down by saying, “You’re being disrespectful.”

How am I supposed to bring something up to him if this is always his response to conflict?
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3 Eggerichs Hangout, One walks into a…

Three Eggerichs Hang Out

No, wait, let me start that over.

There’s a priest, a pastor and a rabbi…

Wait, no, this is how it goes. Read more

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Writer in Waiting: Update About My Book

Writer in Waiting: Update about my book

Hey Friends,

I wanted to tell you something.

If you have been part of the Love and Respect Now community for a while, you might remember a little over a year ago when I announced I was getting married. Then I said I was kidding, and told you I was having a baby. After making you adequately annoyed by my endless string of lies, I told you I had just signed a book contract, and then proceeded to dance around my cemetery to Disney tunes like a fool. Read more

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Having a Lasting Marriage and Reaping What You Sow

Having a lasting marriage and reaping what you sow

Are you loving Normie as much as I am? 

In this episode we opened with us reliving the time I was trying to be HI-LAR-IOUS, and gave myself third degree burns.

And then things got real. Read more

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2 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

2 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

Does this guy look new to you? Make sure you check out the first and second Tuesday with Normie. If you already know him, you can check out the next episode HERE.

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I’m not one for writing post with lists like, “5 Ways To Become a Broadway Singer.” Truly. I was honored to know that even Christianity Today noticed I’m not a big list-writer.  (They also called me a “Relationship Maven,” so obviously they didn’t call any of my exes as references.)

But the way things shook out in today’s chat with Dr. Norm Thiesen all boiled down to two great questions. Read more

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Savior Complex, Anyone?

Savior Complex, Anyone?

Hey Joy,

I recently watched the video “Fear and the Tick-Tock of my Girlfriend’s Baby Clock,” where you mentioned not playing savior for the person you’re in a relationship with. I feel like I dropped the ball on this one with my first girlfriend, because when we broke up she told me I was smothering her. If I ever date again, how do I find the balance of being best boyfriend without playing savior in the relationship? Read more

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Obstacles to Marriage in the 21st Century

Tuesdays With Normie

(Miss the first Tuesday with Normie? Click HERE. Catch the next Tuesday HERE.)

This time I am talking to Dr. Norm Thiesen about a shift in our generation–how we’ve moved towards being so “honest” about marriage being hard that we forget to talk about its benefits.

Because unmarried people keep hearing the horror stories instead of the stories of success, it feels to me like one more contributor to the growing delay of marriage.  Read more

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Father’s Day Gift Guide: 197 Things Cheaper Than Buying a New Tie

Father's Day Gift Guide

Hey Friends!

So I asked a bunch of you what question you would want to ask your father, or something you appreciated about your pops. Ironically many of the responses came from people whose fathers had passed away.

I realized that sometimes it’s not until we have lost someone that we start to reflect on the things we really felt or wanted to say.

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Does Education Matter? Men, Women and Skipping Class

Does Education Matter- Men, Women and Skipping Class

Hey Joy,

Women [in westernized societies] are becoming more educated than men. How is that going to impact the future of marriages?

– Jonathan

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Can I Rebuild Trust? (+37 other Q&A’s) LIVE! Emerson & Joy answer YOU!

Joy and Emerson Google Hang Out 2

Hi Friends!

Just in case you missed it, I’m going to start hanging out with ya’ll!

My father and I recently had our Google+ hangout sesh numero dos. My lovely mother couldn’t sit down to join us because she was busy filling Easter eggs… excuses excuses.

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Mother’s Day Guide For Men via Jeff Tweedy

Mother's Day Guide For Men via Jeff Tweedy

Hey Men (and ladies like me who can’t remember holidays besides Christmas and our own birthday),

Last night I overheard a conversation between my mother and brother about how Jeff Tweedy strengthened their relationship. If you don’t know who Mr. Tweedy is, he’s the lead singer of the band Wilco. If you don’t know who Wilco is, then you should probably change that fact.

I often speak about the power a daughter can have when writing a respect card to her father. So, a couple of years ago, I had my Mommacita share some ideas of how to write a simple, but meaningful, letter to your mom (that would be far more valuable than flowers).

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Would vs. Could— Men Say There’s A Difference

Would vs. Could- He Says There's A Difference

Do men and women really process words differently? 

“Joy, it’s not men vs. women, but just people who process and hear things differently.”

I don’t want to argue, I just want to share some enlightening tidbits I learned from asking a few good men what they would love women to know…

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Fear of Commitment? Ask Joy

Fear of Commitment

Hi Joy,

After dating my boyfriend for a significant amount of time, he says he loves me and can’t imagine his life without me, but can’t find the words to say he wants to marry me.

I feel like this should be a no-brainer. Am I being crazy for wanting him to fish or cut bait, or do I need to respect his needs and timing?

Read more

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Labels and Respectfully Confronting Friends: Ask Joy

Labels and Respectfully Confronting People

Hi Joy,

I have a dude friend who I really respect and appreciate, but who often complains about how lonely he is and how “all women suck.” It’s really frustrating to hear over and over again, but I’m not sure how to approach him. If I confront him at all he gets defensive.

On one hand, I can understand that he’s coming from a place of hurt and pain. On the other hand, I hate to hear him putting females down and not taking responsibility for his own actions. I really want to be respectful towards him, but every attempt seems to fail! Helpppp!

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Unrealistic Expectations? Ask Joy

Unrealistic Expectations

Hi Joy,

For the first half of my marriage I hadn’t read the Love and Respect book.

Now, the book has completely transformed the way I treat my husband and has made our marriage so much better. He is a great father and very funny— I even feel I have more than I could ask for in some regards.

At the same time, he tends to struggle at meeting my needs emotionally.

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The Honeymoon Stage Is Over—Does This Mean Our Marriage Is, Too? Ask Joy.

Honeymoon Stage

Hi Joy,

My husband and I have been married for three years and love each other very much, but it really bothers me when people talk up the honeymoon stage. I feel like our marriage has been difficult ever since day one and not only is the honeymoon stage over, it never really began. We feel like we got gypped. 

Is this normal?

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6

Sex, Lies, and Conversation: Deborah Tannen – Formal Lunch

Sex, Lies, and Conversation

I remember first reading Deborah Tannen’s research in college. It opened my eyes to many of the incredible strengths—and therefore weaknesses—we as human beings have when it comes to communication and understanding each other.

So much of the gender differences she highlighted were things I could see in many of my male peers and in the couples that I would watch (in a creepy way, of course). Read more

6

Married and Mourning the Loss of Community: Ask Joy

married and mourning loss of community

Hi Joy,

I’ve recently gotten engaged to a man I met online. My fiancé lives and runs his own start-up in San Diego, and when we get married I’ll be moving from my home in Los Angeles to be with him. Read more

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I Don’t Love You Anymore: What Happened? Ask Joy

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Hey Joy,

I just got out of a pretty serious relationship. My boyfriend and I had been dating for a while, even both saying, “I love you”—until one day he came to me and said, “I don’t love you anymore.” I haven’t heard from him since. Read more

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PMS: Is There Hope for Men? Ask Joy

pms hope for men

Hey Joy,

I’m 22 and have my first girlfriend. She’s pretty amazing—except once a month, she has severe PMS that causes her to go a little cuckoo. I didn’t grow up with sisters or any close girlfriends, so I don’t have any experience handling these swings—it’s the core of our conflicts, and I don’t know what to do anymore. My girlfriend recognizes this issue, and doesn’t want to be this way, but she just has these severe symptoms.

This is going to keep happening every single month. What can I do? Is there hope?

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How to Approach an Irrational Man? Ask Joy

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My best friend currently lives in another state. We’re both married, and though we’ve visited and have done stuff as couples, my best friend wants me to come visit for some “girl time.” When I asked my husband if I could go, he flipped out and shut down, saying, “You want to go without me? Fine. Go right now.” 

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Love and Respect: Loyalty Sealed the Deal

LoveandRespect_LoyaltySealedtheDeal

Hey friendlings!

Today I’m comin’ at you from the sunny suburbs because finally, finally, I got visitation rights to see Walter, my long-lost dog love. Unfortunately, he won’t stop hiding under the table.

I think that means he missed me. Read more

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