By recommending these resources I am not saying I agree with or endorse all of the content or producers of the content 100%. These resources are listed because they cover many of the topics discussed on LRN. Some are academic, some are self-help, some are Christian, some are secular, etc.
Please use discretion as some of the resources are graphic. These are recommended on the assumption that our community is mature and will engage these resources thoughtfully and with wisdom.
My hope is that we all continue seeking knowledge so that we can ultimately grow and form our own opinions, not just those of others.
By Gregory L. Jantz, PhD
Most of us don’t realize how attached we are to technology and the impact that it has on our lives. In #Hooked, the author discusses the various ways technology affects us and helps us see the importance of loosening our grip on it. At the end of every chapter, he prompts readers with questions for self-reflection as well as advice for how to change our relationship with technology for the better.
A community of Christian woman who are trying to navigate their love, professional, and family lives.
Locate a counselor near you through the American Association of Christian Counselors
By Barna Group
You Lost Me Live offers ideas for pastors, youth leaders, parents, educators and employers to learn what makes Millennials tick and to encourage young adult Christians with a vibrant, lasting faith to wholeheartedly pursue Christ.
By Leonard Sax
These books are written to help parents, teachers, and youth workers understand what is happening in the world of today's teenagers. The behaviors that Dr. Sax observes in teenagers are also present in many young adults, college students and young professionals, making these books a worthwhile read for someone in any life stage.
By Beth Moore
A Bible study that can be done alone or in a group—this study for women (that some men do, too) has been extremely helpful for many people who feel enslaved by the wounds of something or someone.
A resource to help filter your internet searches.
Money issues impact marriages, not to mention that God cares about how we steward our money.
Help, hope and healing for women dealing with pornography and sexual addictions.
Support if you are going through a divorce.
By Shaunti Feldhahn
This book shows that women are actually quite easy to understand and please—as long as you know what it is they need.
By Shaunti Feldhahn
Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to “freak out” the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads.
Locate a counselor near you through Focus on The Family or call 719-531-3400, M-F, 9-4:30 (mountain time) and ask for the Counseling Department.
By Carolyn Custis James
A Biblical look at the role and responsibility of women in the church today. Both men and women will be challenged, inspiried, and encouraged by the call on our lives and our responsibility to women all over the world.
I highly recommend checking this out. Any of the truth that is in any of the other resources mentioned, stems from this author.
By M.D. Freda McKissic and McKissic Bush M.D.
Two doctors explain in a very digestible and short read what happens to us in the “hook-up” culture. Great read for parents as well.
By John Van Epp, Ph.D.
Understanding what factors create the environment for a wise relationship and learning to progress in those areas with balance and wisdom.
By Emerson Eggerichs Ph.D
This book is written to married couples, but if it isn’t clear by now, it’s my mission for everyone to read this book no matter what stage of life you are in, to better understand the male/female dynamic and how to resolve conflict quickly.
In case you missed it, this is the mothership and is chock full of resources on the topic of marriage and relationships.
By Dr. Jonathan Eggerichs
Counseling services by Dr. Jonathan Eggerichs, PsyD, (also, Joy's brother) for those in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Specializes in marital counseling, as well as issues including depression, anxiety, trauma, and life transitions.
By Emerson Eggerichs
In his new book, my dad applies the Love and Respect principles to family members: children need love, parents need respect.
A community of brides, grooms, and wedding vendors who are choosing that their Love Gives Way to the recovery and restoration of those exploited by sex trafficking. Each vendor offers a unique LGW wedding package, with a portion of the funds donated to Wellspring Living (which provides restorative homes where survivors can heal from past sexual trauma).
By Laura Smit
Can anything good come from unrequited love? This book proposes the answer is “yes”.
By Eric Mason
In this book, author Eric Mason encourages men to live for more than what society tells them is important. This is a great book for men who want to hear from a man about things that affect them specifically.
Provides training and resources for churches and community organizations who seek to serve those impacted by abuse or trauma.
By Marnie C. Ferree
This book is a valuable resource for women who are struggling with sexual addiction, or for someone who has a friend or family member who struggles. It also provides helpful insight for pastors or others who aren’t trained professional counselors but desire to help people in this area.
By Pamela Paul
How pornography is shaping our culture, families and love lives.
An assessment tool to evaluate your relationship compatibility. I highly recommend this for couples considering engagement or marriage. This should be supplemental to pre-marital counseling, not a replacement.
Resources and programs that look at the neurological impacts of pornography on the brain. There are also resources for family members.
By Craig Gross and Steven Luff
This is a practical how-to guide for a man who is struggling to break the hold of pornography on his life. Helpful tools and worksheets, alongside stories, are included to aid a man's journey toward healing.
By Laurn Winner
A perspective on sex that is Biblical and realistic. A book for single and married people wanting to have sex be addressed in community.
By Dale S. Kuehne
A look at sex, sexuality and creating an argument for how it can best impact society in the future based on how it’s been integrated into society in the past and currently today.
By Donna Freitas
After conducting dozens of interviews and a large number of research studies, Donna Frietas put together this book examining the intersection of faith and sexuality on a variety of today’s college campuses. This very informational book is an important read for those who work with university-aged students.
By Lisa Graham McMinn
A realistic look at what sexuality is for Christians – especially in light of singleness.
By Marilyn Hontz
If you struggle with feeling shame, I highly recommend this book.
By William J. Webb
This is one man’s view into the maze that has historically surrounded differing opinions of what the Bible says about slaves, women and homosexuals.
By Daniel Gilbert
A look at the unique human ability to imagine the future, and about our capacity to predict how much we will like it when we get there. Fascinating to read in light of our cultures delay of marriage and view of singleness.
By Robert A Emmons
A book on how gratitude impacts our life. (Ironic that the Bible tells us to do the same thing research is now finding!)
By Dr. Gary Chapman
This book and the various resources available through the website will help you discover ways to act or speak that will cause others to feel loved (and respected). The secret is learning the right love language!
By Daniel G. Amen M.D.
This book is helpful in reminding us that the brains is very impacted by our relationship choices and that male and female brains are different.
By Leslie Vernick
This book covers how to recognize and respond to relationships that contain any sort of emotional abuse. Its helpful for those who are being abused, have been abused, or know someone in either of those situations.
By By Louann Brizendine M.D.
Brizendine, a neuropsychiatrist shows how the unique structure of the female brain determines how women think, what they value, how they communicate, and who they love.
This site seeks to serve women and the issues they face. It has a growing list of recommended resources.
By Emerson Eggerichs Ph.D
I love this book more than the first one! It takes a closer look at the “how” we practice the L&R message. It helps us understand the different languages we sometimes speak as men and women as well as looking at how we can follow Jesus and his way of talking, living and forgiving.
By Shaunti Feldhahn
A heavily research based book taking a look into the male brain in the workplace.
By Timothy Keller
Keller unpacks the complexities of commitment with the wisdom of God. I’ve always loved Kellers explanation of sex, singleness and marriage and this book continues to shed light on these topics in logical and Biblical ways.
By Barry Schwartz
Shows how a culture of abundance actually robs people of satisfaction. So many people write me and ask how they can know if a person is “the one”. I believe our consumerist culture impacts how we commit (or don’t commit) to relationships.
By John Gottman
Gottman has done some of the most extensive qualitative research on couples and what makes relationships successful.
By Christina Hoff Sommers
A look at how unbalanced research in the 90’s has impacted this generation of men and women.
By James R. Beck and Stanley N. Gundry
This book looks at two different views on what the bible says about women's roles in ministry.
By Miriam Grossman M.D.
An intimate and eye-opening look at the impact of the “hook-up” culture on women.
By David Murrow
The percentage of men attending church today is far less than women. This book based on research, gives tangible ways for churches to encourage this gender in ways that recognizes its design.
By William M. Struthers
A look at how pornography hijacks the male brain.
By Diane Paddison
In this book, directed toward working women, Diane does a fantastic job of addressing how we can balance the Christian life and work. She also has created a national network for women who find themselves in the working world today—either by choice or necessity: www.4wordwomen.org.
Pornography is impacting men and women left and right. Here’s a website full of resources and help for men and women.
By Deborah Tannen PhD
This book shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.
By David Kinnaman
Based on research by the Barna group, Kinnaman explains why young people are leaving the church.