I want to be a generous person.
As I think about how to be generous with my time, finances and love, I know that usually the best way is what is taught in Matthew 6—giving privately.
Easier said than done.
Like when I go to donate online and the website says, “Do you want this to be anonymous?” I think, “Is it wrong that I kinda want my friends to know I’m supporting their trip to Africa?” Or how I wait to throw my tip in the jar when the Barista is close enough to see. (Isn’t there a Seinfeld episode about this? I’m guessing George and I have more in common than I care to admit.)
Because, you see, Matthew 5 talks about letting your good works shine. So which is it?? Private or out in the light?
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What I’m learning is that the giving itself isn’t a black or white, right or wrong issue—rather, both verses end by saying, “…to honor your Father…” and “…so others will glorify God…”
The issue isn’t about the gift, it’s about the heart as we give.
Africa or tip jar, it doesn’t matter.
For me, this heart check is often connected to my financial giving, but I’ve found that this generosity can apply to my friendships as well. I was frustrated with a friend recently, and when I took stock of why, it was because I felt like I had done a lot for them with little in return.
Aaaaand then I heard my thoughts and was embarrassed.
I realized half of my motivation of giving was because I wanted their response and appreciation…soooo I could feel good about myself. I do enjoy giving, but if I was honest with myself, I was looking to get something in return.
Again, I don’t think this is a black or white, right or wrong answer. If you have people in your life who walk all over you and ignore your efforts, that might be an issue to address. But for me, I wasn’t getting walked all over, I just wasn’t getting what I wanted reciprocated. The lack of reciprocation caused me to evaluate my “generous” heart and what it truly means to give with no expectation—to give selflessly.
As we enter the “gift giving” season, my prayer is we remember why we give and celebrate the ultimate selfless giver—and nothing more.
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God is shows off so much sometimes, doesn’t he? I personally love it when he does. I read this post yesterday and then this morning I was reading 2 Corinthians 9 for my devotion, which is about generosity.
This is something I struggle with too. I grew up in a family where certain traditions were put in place just out of habit. In the time of dating my husband and in our marriage, it has been a struggle to break some of those traditions because although the traditions are sweet and involve giving, they are expected. Birthday cards, well Cards in general are HUGE for my family. Any and every holiday, you gave and got cards. If you didn’t, tisk tisk tisk. My husband and I have gotten into small arguments because he didn’t get me a card or SOMETHING for any given holiday.
The expectation of either giving and receiving or just receiving is so dangerous. Especially because society says you deserve something in return when you give.
Such a good topic to share right before the holidays, when we can sometimes get lost in it all.
Thanks for sharing!
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