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I don’t know how Google searches for things so well, but since I have given my posts a lot of weird titles over the years, finding things by topic is like searching for Waldo in a candy cane store.
So, I wanted to put all the posts in one, easy-to-find place.
Hope this helps! Or you can keep using the search button–it’s kind of a fun game to see what comes up when you type in “UNICORNS.” Surprisingly, it’s a lot.
Emerson & Sarah Eggerichs on Marriage, Parenting, Family of Origin, Work & Death: Interview with Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs, founders of Love and Respect (“The Mothership”)
Fighting for Love (and Other Potentially Hazardous Cliches): Joy shares her thoughts on cliché statements about life and love.
Eric Knox: Matchmaking, Marriage & Mentorship (And a Little NBA Action): Interview with Eric Knox, pastor at Imago Dei Community
He Said He Likes Me, But Nothing Happened. Tonight’s News With Joy Eggerichs: Dealing with ambiguous relationships
Online Dating: Not Your Grandma’s Way to Find a Spouse…Or Is It?: What does Joy think about online dating?
The Summer of Fun: A Love and Respect Now Online Dating Experiment: Documentary by Joy and a few of her friends about their experiences with online dating
Getting Past The First Date + An Interactive Practice Conversation: Getting past the first date, even if you’re a little socially awkward
Hail Gladdening Light (Phos Hilaron) – Arranged by Paul Ramey, Hannah Glavor and Tim Glavor: A secret song arranged for The Illumination Project is released!
Gabe & Rebekah Lyons on Starting Q, Starting Fights, & John Travolta: Interview with Gabe and Rebekah Lyons, founders of Qideas.
Respect Card? Was ist das?: Example of what a respect card can be and why respect can be valuable for a man
My Friends Have Better Lives: Choosing Joy over Jealousy, and GPS Tracking: How to deal with being the “last single standing”
Eric Metaxas: Marriage, Miracles & Movies: Interview with Bonhoeffer author, Eric Metaxas
The Real Reason People Ask About “The One”: Why are we all asking about “The One?”
Sseko Designs: How To Start a Company & Life as Husband & Wife: Interview with married, business partners Ben and Liz Bohannon
Amena Brown & Opdiggy: Falling In Love & Makin’ Music: Interview with married, collaborative artists Amena Brown and Opdiggy
Chores in Marriage: Create a Win-Win Situation With Your Spouse: Figuring out each other’s strengths in the first few months of marriage
How (Not) to Propose Like God by Joshua Ryan Butler: An analogy between proposal and some of the toughest themes of the Bible
Does Age Matter? Young Couples Getting Married, Maple Bacon Bars, & Eggs: When is it OK to get married young?
Rachel Ramsey Cruze: On Money, Relationships, and Upcoming SMART Conference: Interview with Rachel Cruze, daughter of Dave Ramsey
“Does He Like Me?” … Guys? Do You?: How to define an ambiguous relationship
The Good News About Marriage: Shaunti Feldhahn Interview: Interview with author, Shaunti Feldhahn
Signs of a Cheater: Seeing the Forest for the Trees and Eating Teacup Pigs: How to avoid being cheated on–live your relationships in the light
Mana by Preston Yancey: Finding God’s gifts in the ordinary
Age Segregation in America and the Church: How does age segregation impact the church? What will we do?
More Questions to Ask Before You Get Married: Wisdom with Preschoolers: Joy asks Brynn all the questions YOU think should be asked before marriage.
Did God Lie? When The One Walks Away: They’ve walked away, but does that mean God didn’t orchestrate the meeting?
Why L-O-V-E Spells T-I-M-E by Timothy Willard: Giving the gift of time to your spouse
Giving Relationship Advice: Your Story is Not Their Story: Chemistry as a litmus test and how to give/take advice
Is Chemistry Real? Laws of Attraction, Muumuus and Siblings: The science behind chemistry and when to give it a chance
He Shuts Me Down: How To Fight To Be an Ally with Your Guy: Use and abuse of the word “respect” + discernment
So Worth Loving: Eryn Erickson’s Illumination: Interview with the creator of So Worth Loving
3 Eggerichs Hangout, One walks into a…: Google+ Hangout with Joy, Emerson and Jonathan + the Love and Respect PODCAST
Why Am I Socially Awkward? How To Not Puke At Parties: Recap on the Art of Asking Questions
Unrequited Love: Advice on Loving Alone: What to do when love is not returned
Robin Williams: The Art and Curse of The Observer: Joy reflects on Robin Williams, comedy and bringing light to the world.
A Script for Marriage by Esther Fleece: Illumination on what God’s script for marriage is
Love Conquers All…or Does It?: Normie flips the tables and asks Joy some questions.
The Illumination Project: How’d It Go? Ginger Jokes and Wise Folks: Sydney & Crista share two different experiences of The Illumination Project.
Writer in Waiting: Update About My Book: The evolution and eventual pause of Joy’s book
Relevant Magazine & Podcast: Cameron Strang’s Illumination (+ Video Interview): Interview with Cameron Strang, creator of Relevant Magazine
Having a Lasting Marriage and Reaping What You Sow: One simple thing you can do to change your happiness in marriage
Problem Solving 101: Plywood Presents (+ Audio Interview): An interview with Jeff Shinabarger
What Red Flags Should I Look For? Tips for Relationships and Nascar: Green flags, yellow flags and red flags in relationships
You Make Me Brave by Annie Downs (+ Audio Interview): Encouragement to be brave + podcast recording with Annie Downs
2 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married: Two helpful questions to keep in your back pocket
Savior Complex, Anyone?: Finding balance between being the “Best Boyfriend” and smothering your girlfriend
Not Ready to Commit (And Other Stories From a Tomb Raider): Words for a guy who needs time and isn’t ready to commit
Is Love a Feeling? Balancing Butterflies by Andrea Lucado: Andrea’s illumination moment–relationships aren’t only about feelings
Obstacles to Marriage in the 21st Century: Why should you have hope for marriage?
Are We Officially Dating? Being Kept a Secret, Will Smith & Miles Davis: A “good” relationship probably shouldn’t be kept in the dark.
Seeing Through Rose-Colored Glasses–Ingredients for Entering Marriage And Staying There: What you need to know before and during marriage to stay married
The Bible Project, My Birthday, Bob Barker and a Gift for You!: A gift for you and a gift for Joy to celebrate her birthday
Father’s Day Gift Guide: 197 Things Cheaper Than Buying a New Tie: Giving the gift of respectful words to your father
Why Do We Have Weddings Anyway? Plus, Kicking Redheaded Flower Girls: Why do you attend weddings? Why throw a wedding?
Do I Need to Dumb Down to Find A Man? Or, Finding Mr. Moneybags: From a woman, “Do my academic achievements intimidate men?”
Be a Man for Your Wife by Timothy Willard: How service, repentance, and kind words can define manliness
Does Education Matter? Men, Women and Skipping Class: From a man, “How is more education for women going to impact future marriages?”
Can I Rebuild Trust? (+37 other Q&A’s) LIVE! Emerson & Joy answer YOU!: Another Google+ Hangout with Emerson and Joy
Letting Go of Perfection and Dealing with Reality–Illumination Guest: Aukelien van Abbema: Illumination moments on unrealistic expectations in singleness and dating
Mother’s Day Guide For Men via Jeff Tweedy: A word for men on how to write meaningful words to your mother
What Does Your Childhood Say About You?—Formal Lunch: A challenge to examine the formative moments of your childhood
Relationships Or Career? How To Become An Expert At Both: Ask Joy: Balancing time for relationships and careers
What I Know Now: Is He Marriage Material?: What do you wish you would have known? For women in serious relationships.
What I Know Now: Is She The One?: What do you wish you would have known? For men in serious relationships.
Would vs. Could— Men Say There’s A Difference: Ask men for help, but how you ask matters.
Dave Ramsey, Sean Connery, Your Relationship Questions & More: Ask Joy & Emerson: Joy and Emerson’s very first Google+ Hangout
Real Love: How Do You Know?— Emily Jamieson: Illumination Guest: A story on the choice to marry and the choice to love
Fear of Commitment? Ask Joy: What to do when one has an irrational fear that is impeding commitment.
Labels and Respectfully Confronting Friends: Ask Joy: When are generalizations good? Bad? How should we react to the “bad” ones?
Unrealistic Expectations? Ask Joy: How much should your spouse meet your emotional needs?
End of the Trail: Sarah Thebarge — Illumination Guest: Sarah shares a story of when a closed door turned out to be a gift.
Strengths Finder Personality Profile: Stuff I Like: How Joy’s strengths have changed over the past several years
Your Life Begins Today, Not at the Altar: Katelyn Beaty — Illumination Guest: How Katelyn’s beliefs about marriage and adulthood have shifted
The Honeymoon Stage Is Over—Does This Mean Our Marriage Is, Too? Ask Joy: In marriage, does “difficult season” = “wrong choice?”
How Do I Confront My Friends—Or Not? Ask Joy: How do you challenge and not shame your friends?
Sex, Lies, and Conversation: Deborah Tannen – Formal Lunch: Men vs. Women–conversation and body language + questions for you
My Married Friends Have Abandoned Me: Ask Joy: Conversation when you are the only single one in the room
Married and Mourning the Loss of Community: Ask Joy: When new marriage means loss of community
I Don’t Love You Anymore: What Happened? Ask Joy: Why do men cut off a relationship so quickly? How can women respond?
PMS: Is There Hope for Men? Ask Joy: Acknowledging and dealing with hormone-motivated mood swings
How to Approach an Irrational Man? Ask Joy: Addressing issues or fears when you don’t know what they are
Love and Respect: Loyalty Sealed the Deal: How attending a Love and Respect conference as a single gal affected Lindsay’s marriage
Valentine’s Day 2014: First Date, First Book, and a GIVEAWAY!: Joy shares the cover of her book.
Sweet 16 Pity Date: Two Versions: Joy and Justin tell two different stories of their first date.
Is Interracial Dating Okay? Ask Joy.: Joy shares her thoughts on interracial dating fifty years ago and now.
Formal Lunch: Emotional Connections Last Forever: Observe the human reaction to love and being intimately known.
Illumination Guest: Esther Havens – Illumination Around the World: Using photography to share others’ stories from around the world
Ask Joy: Everything I Do, I Do For Women!: Is your significant other your motivator or your savior?
Online “Comments” — Helpful or Hurtful?: Joy’s wish for better online rhetoric when we disagree
Jennie Allen and the Dreamers: Restless, IF:Gathering, and a GIVEAWAY: Who is Jennie Allen and what does she do?
One Word 365: Kindness and Heel Kicks: Choosing one word instead of an impossible New Year’s resolution.
New Year Resolution FAILS and Why I Won’t Make It as a Food Blogger: Joy’s resolution–assume the best.
Eric Metaxas Official Late Night Show: Special Guest Joy Eggerichs: What’s the difference between LRN, The Illumination Project and Joy’s book?
Ask Joy: Chill Out, Richard!: How do you let a guy down nicely?
Ask Joy: Humble Arrogance and Staying Away from Girls: Dealing with the flattery when someone likes you
Illumination Guest: Fritz Ridenour – Illumination Beyond Marriage: Reflections during and after 56 years of marriage
The Giver: What does your heart look like when you give?
The Illumination Project: A Thankful Thanksgiving.: Happy Thanksgiving + thoughts + presents for you
The Illumination Project: All Your Questions, ANSWERED (maybe): FAQ on The Illumination Project
What I Know Now: New Moms, Lessons From a Fifth Grader: What do you wish you would have known? For new moms.
What I Know Now: New Dads, Put Pegs in the Floor: What do you wish you would have known? For new dads.
What I Know Now: Newly Married Ladies and Joy’s Response to Sad Stories: What do you wish you would have known? For newly married women.
What I Know Now: Newly Married Men and Déjà Vu Conversations: What do you wish you would have known? For newly married men.
What I Know Now: Single Ladies, You Don’t Have to Marry Them!: What do you wish you would have known? For single ladies.
What I Know Now: Single Men, Keep Your Shirts On: What do you wish you would have known? For single men.
Ask Joy: Confronting Parents—Yay or Nay?: How do you confront your parents and still honor them?
Illumination Guest: Karyn Thurston – Finding Your Light: When to be seen and when to surrender the spotlight
Got Nerves? The Psychology Behind Those First-date Jitters: Infographic about those first date jitters
Ask Joy: Paralyzed by Parents’ Divorce: Not letting wounds from the past impact the present
Illumination Guest: Diane Paddison – When God Turns on the Light: How God created a nonprofit out of Diane’s joblessness
Ask Joy: Which Comes First, Love or Respect?: Who moves first? The one who is most mature.
Illumination Guest: Sarah Collins – A Fortress for Love: Observations on affection and love throughout the world
RSOTU: Fear Impacting Respect: Flashback to the question, “Do past hurts or fears impact how we understand respect?”
Formal Lunch: The Name’s Bond, James Bond.: Pet-perks vs. pet peeves and a challenge to ask questions and listen well
Intimately Known: A prayer that we may be intimately known today
Illumination Guest: Timothy Willard – Naked I Jump: Moments of joy inside and outside of marriage
Joy & Steph: Album 2.0: Thanking Steph as she transitions out
Ask Joy: Single and (Not) Ready to Mingle: Finding balance between your current relationship status and your relationship desires
The Illumination Project: Pre-Order Party!: The Illumination Project Arrives + birthday discount
Ask Joy: Fear and the Tick, Tock of my Girlfriend’s Baby Clock: Helping a girl relinquish her fears
Joy Asks Rick…and a GIVEAWAY: Announcement that Rick McKinley is re-releasing his first book
Ask Joy: Does Newly Married = No More Friends?: Maintaining friendships regardless of relationship status + “grass is greener” syndrome
C.S. Lewis – The Thrill: Initial, fluttering, thrilling love vs. love that lasts
Ask Joy: On Alfredo Sauce and Being Intentional: Being intentional and growing in all aspects of your relationship
Illumination Guest: Katie Locke – A Radio Truth: How the Love and Respect message affected Katie as a single and married person
Cat Lady, Part 3: Gratitude when life isn’t turning out as planned
Cat Lady, Part 2: Becoming the kind of partner you want to be with
Cat Lady, Part 1: Not wasting your alone time as a single person
Ask Joy: Online Dating UPDATE: Joy gave online dating a shot–here are the results.
Formal Lunch: I Want to Roast Marshmallows, too!: Don’t exclude invitations based on relationship status or kiddos
Illumination Guest: Guy Chmieleski – God’s Workshop: Marriage and dating when you’re a “work in progress”
Understanding Your Brain: Recommended books and TED Talks
Illumination Guest: Emily Maynard – Saying No to Negativity: Choosing not to make negative generalizations about men or women
Ask Joy: Respect for Women, too?: Clarifying what respect means to women and men
Illumination Guest: Paul Angone – Why Finding Your Passion is Not Sexy: Thoughts on the twenty-something process of building a life
Ask Joy: I’m a Flirt…or am I?: Flirting vs. Friendliness + how to tell the difference
Illumination Guest: Benny Fountain – Kitchen Series: A series of paintings on how past experiences shape your vision
Ask Joy: Just Give It A Chance: Responses to the phrase, “just give it a chance!” + others setting you up
Illumination Guest: Sarah Markley – Living Life in a Mercury-Vaporized World: The “in-between” when current life seems far away from your dreams
Delay is Not Denial: Thoughts for when God seems to be taking His time
Guest Post: Converge Magazine: Joy’s interview with Chelsea Batten of Converge Magazine
MY BIRTHDAY (and Steph’s Half-Birthday) WISH: Joy’s challenge for YOU–seek wise counsel
Illumination Guest: Eric Metaxas – Impromptu Interview: Interview between Eric Metaxas, Justin Zoradi and Joy
Formal Lunch: Pink vs. Blue: A challenge to help understand gender differences
Illumination Guest: Propaganda – Be Present: A spoken word piece on being present amidst technology
Ask Joy: Heartbroken and Angry: Dealing with the anger you’re feeling over a broken heart
Illumination Guest: Mike Pacchione – When the Clock Runs Out: The lightbulb moment that made Mike believe in Jesus
Ask Joy: I Refuse: The value of respect, friendship and shoulder-to-shoulder time for a man
For the Unsung Hero: Epoch 2013: Nominate an unsung hero to win some of $50,000 to support their efforts.
Ask Joy: You’re Always Right: Getting off of the Crazy Cycle, even if the other person is wrong
Illumination Guest: Janel Kaden – Love Light: A pop art piece contributed for The Illumination Series
The Illumination Project. What’s that? I’ll tell you: Answering all of your questions about The Illumination Project
Ask Joy: Asks YOU! Was it a Date?: How do you define a date? How do you clarify when it becomes unclear?
Illumination Guest: Brad Lomenick – 5 Illuminating Lessons Learned in My 20′s: 5 Lessons Brad learned in his 20s + his beatboxing skills
Ask Joy: Do You Love Me?: How do you and your significant other know when to say “I love you?”
Illumination Guest: Verily – A Women’s Magazine: An interview with the creator of Verily Magazine.
Ask Joy: Horny Toad: Setting boundaries in a once-sexual relationship–why should you?
Illumination Guest: Bearings – A Men’s Magazine: An interview with the creator of Bearings Magazine
A Few Questions For God: Joy shares her talk at Liberty University’s Convocation
Illumination Guest: Blair Jacobson — Expectations: Wanting a relationship vs. wanting a person
Julie Burleson: Planning a Wedding…on a Budget: Practical tips for planning an inexpensive and fun wedding.
Ask Joy: Some Thoughts On Mentoring: Leading and mentoring a very diverse small group
Stuff I Like: Love Gives Way: An organization that helps weddings serve something bigger
Iceland, Pornography, and Vintage Videos: What happens to our brain when we view porn
I’M GETTING MARRIED!!: Joy announces her book!
Illumination Guest: Jeff Shinabarger – Treasure or Trash?: The power of asking and the power of generosity
Ask Joy: Conflicts in Communication—The Stonewall: Identifying fear of conflict and seeking healing
Illumination Guest: Lesley Miller – Fighting the Good Fight: The importance of talking through the tough stuff
Ask Joy: Material Girls in a Material World: How deep-seated insecurities can cause someone to be overly sensitive
Illumination Guest: Jeremy Gordon – A Seed: A song on patient expectation and growth
Ask Joy: Political Punches or Partisanship?: Agreeing and disagreeing on “hot topics”
Valentine’s Gone Very Wrong. Plus 11 Giveaways.: Some cards to help you not take this holiday too seriously
Ask Joy: Trust Me: Understanding each other’s needs during conflict
Illumination Guest: Jeff Manion – A Greenhouse for Growth: It’s not your hardship that shapes you, but your reaction to it.
Ask Joy: Don’t Macaulay Culkin Your Parents: As an adult, do you still need to obey your parents?
This is Dignity – Bangladesh Day 4: Ways that many women become self-sustaining through support from FH
Marriage, Baby Tinkles, and Mutual Love of Gold – Bangladesh Day 3: Stories of women seeking to change the fabric of their society
The Legend of Fulmoti & Joy – Bangladesh Day 2: Joy shares games with her sponsored child and village
Power of Language – Bangladesh Day 1: The history of language in Bangladesh + meeting Joy’s new friends
Karen’s Top 5 Albums of 2012: Intern Karen shares the soundtracks to her year
Ask Joy: Leading On: Addressing the fear of leading someone on
Illumination Guests: Justin and Trisha Davis – What I Wish I Knew: Five things one couple wished they knew before marriage
Don’t Be a Fool Like Me, in 2013: Cooling down vs. quickly reacting
2012 Sign-Off & Walter Update: Challenge to reflect on what you’ve learned
Stuff I Like: Muslims: Joy announces her future travels to Bangladesh
Joy & Stephanie – Voices of Angels: A little extra Thanksgiving/Christmas video gift
Ask Joy: Do I Like Him Enough?: Knowing your motivation when saying ‘yes’ to a date.
Illumination Guest: Becca Blevins – Quiet and Light: Our design for balance of rest, play and hard work.
Ask Joy: How Do I Know If She’s Interested?: Helping each other out to ask each other out
Illumination Guest: Diane Comer – Regarding Him: When you’re communicating and over-communicating
Hierarchy: Part 2: Thanking men for their desire to protect
Hierarchy: Part 1: Understanding a man’s sense of responsibility when it comes to protecting women
Illumination Guest: Joshua Chang – Know Your Self-Worth: Knowing God’s design for marriage and our value to Him
Illumination Guest: Bianca Olthoff – It’s Just Coffee: Getting out of the pressure of a simple date
Ask Joy: ATB: Assuming the best in others + pouring salt in the wound
Illumination Guest: Jon Acuff – My First Book: Two moments that inspired Jon to become a published author
Mending the Soul: Thoughts on wounds, rebuilding trust and abuse
Catalyst and My Time With Beyonce: Serving as a young leader + some advice
Ask Joy: Call Me Maybe: What is the best way to ask a girl out? How can you be more clear?
Illumination Guest: Sharaya Mikael – Million Miles: Sharaya imagines what it looks like to be in love and be truly known.
Illumination Guest: Josh Straub – Old-School Cameras, Fanny Packs, and Jesus: Practical ways that we can love others and make them well-formed in Christ
Ask Joy: Online Woes: They’ve been dating for 4 months, but he still logs into an online dating site daily.
The Illumination Project Highlight Reel: Highlights from the live filming
Ask Joy: Mixed Signals: Dealing with and discerning mixed signals in dating
Interview: Catalyst Atlanta Speaker Spotlight: Joy shares a Catalyst interview
Illumination Guest: Alece Ronzino – Respect Thrown In My Face: Unconditional respect without condoning wrong behavior
Ask Joy: Billy Doesn’t Date: What does the Bible say about dating? Courtship?
Illumination Guest: Josh White – Wounded Healer: Josh White shares music and a poetic piece for The Illumination Project
Ask Joy: Facebook Feud: Dealing wisely with hurt and unexpected rejection
Illumination Guest: Rachel Cruze – Common “Cents”: Illumination about this generation’s attitude towards money
Ask Joy: Mini-Men and Small Man Syndrome: How to act as a woman working in a primarily male environment
Illumination Guest: Hannah Joiner – Above The Noise: Finding your own answers and avoiding comparison
Ask Joy: Translating the Transaction: Splitting the bill (before the first date)
Effective Ways to Engage Your Father: Practical, engaging questions to ask your father
What’s This Formal Lunch Business??: Joy introduces the Formal Lunch
Illumination Guest: Ken Canfield: What do fathers contribute to a daughter’s well-being?
A New Kind of Bachelorette: Lessons on friendliness from The Bachelorette
Illumination Guest: Josh Hoke- I Need Your Love: Josh Hoke on needing love without letting it become your savior
Till Death Do We Part: Why attend weddings? Why throw a wedding?
Illumination Guest: Anna Quinlan – Divorce is a Choice: Regardless of family history or the current disagreement, you can choose marriage.
Ask Joy: Is She too Good for Me?: When to ask her out and a few reasons to be more confident
Illumination Project: Todd Arnold – “Missed” Communication: Illumination guest shares an art piece on gender differences and missed communication.
The Illumination Project: Revealed!: Joy introduces The Illumination Project for the first time.
Briefing & Bloopers: Signing off for June 2012
Ask Joy: Cross Cultural Conundrum: Cross-cultural differences in relationships
Ask Joy: If You’re Such An Expert…: If Joy is such an expert on relationships and marriage, why isn’t she married?
Lessons from John Maxwell & a Four-Year-Old: The art of asking good questions
Ask Joy: Feelings for a Friend: Pursuit, getting out of the friend zone and being more than “just friends”
Ask Joy: Overly Emotional: Male/female differences in processing emotions in the context of a relationship
The Beauty of #MMM: Joy shares the results of her social media experiment.
Guest Post: Mother’s Day & My Mommacita: Tips for how sons can make their mothers feel loved on Mother’s Day
May’s Mundane Monday aka #MMM: Joy proposes a social media experiment.
Ask Joy: Anger & Abuse: Identifying and reacting to an abusive relationship
Ask Joy: How to Romance a Woman: Outside of formulas, what actually adds to the romance?
Ask Joy: Independent “I Don’t Need a Man” Woman: Is it possible to change your reputation? How?
Ask Joy: ASKS YOU! Culture, Sexuality & Me Monsters: Questions on societal individualism and its relational effects
Ask Joy: Do I Love Him Enough?: Expectations of your future spouse
Ask Joy: Video Games: Why do so many men still play video games?
Ask Joy: Relationship…or Lack Thereof…: He talked to her more, but asked her friend out instead. Say what?!
Ask Joy: Spiritual Boundaries: Rules for spiritual boundaries in dating–yes or no?
Cycle Stopper: Be a Wounded Healer: How do you heal from relational wounds?
Ask Joy: Red Flags: If a relationship doesn’t have any major red flags, why end it?
Stuff I Like: The Hunger Games: The Hunger Games as a generational social commentary
Guest Post: “In Love” by Lisa “Marie” Armour: What does “in love” really mean?
Submission Series Part 3: Design & Value: Is this “submission” thing really a part of God’s design?
Submission Series Part 2: Fear & Misunderstanding: Possible fears and misunderstandings of the word “submission”
Submission Series Part 1: Mutual Submission: What is mutual submission and why should we care?
Ask Joy: Women Watching Porn: Effects on women of watching pornography
Ask Joy: My Ideal Man: What does Joy want in a man?
Shame Lifter: A book recommendation
Paul Angone: And The Four Will Become One: Why is the search for “The One” so hard?
Guest Post: At The Lord’s Table: Why are churchgoers often wounded? What should be done?
Ask Joy: Hoping for Holly Homemaker: How to have a conversation about the woman staying at home
Valentine’s Day Post: Make Love Today: A challenge to share love whether you love or love to hate Valentine’s Day
Ask Joy: Asking Good Questions: How do you ask good questions?
Ask Joy: Holy Break Up!: How not to break up with someone
Pinky Sent Me: Why you should engage in the Love and Respect message
Christmas Wishes and Musical Gifts: Joy signs off and shares her Christmas wish.
Joy Asks Rick: Joy interviews Rick McKinley about his book.
Radical and Unconditional: POTSC: Joy shares the Love and Respect message with People of the Second Chance
My Love Story: Waiting with a Purpose: Joy’s love story in a guest post for another blog
L’Abri Revisited. Guest Post: Val: How Love and Respect started her relationship off right
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #6: My friend of the opposite sex is in a committed relationship now. Can we still be friends?
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #5: My BF/GF has issues with me being friends with a particular person of the opposite sex. How should I handle it?
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #4: We used to date. Can we be friends?
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #3: We are both single and hang out all the time. So what?!
Emerson Eggerichs vs. Captain Picard: Love and Respect Conferences vs. Star Trek
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #2: Sally likes me, and I don’t like her. Can we be friends?
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #1: I like Sally, she doesn’t like me. Can we be friends?
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends: Intro: Series kickoff–Can Guys and Girls Be Friends?
Where the Singles At?? Guest Post: Renea McKenzie: What can single people learn at a marriage conference?
A Singled Out Sunday: Wrestling with singleness and marriage is where we can encounter the Gospel.
Ask Joy: Cohabitation Conundrums: What to say when your friend/child is making a choice you don’t want them to make
Ask Joy: Seek Him to Find Her: Thoughts on the phrase, “a girl’s heart should be so wrapped up in the Lord, that a guy should have to seek Him to find her.”
Stuff I Like: Needtobreathe: Joy shares a song she’s listened to 4,534,309,672 times.
What’s AACC?: Traveling to AACC and starting a conversation about it
Ask Joy: Right Thing, Wrong Time?: Is the right thing at the wrong time actually the wrong thing?
Ask Joy: ASKS YOU! Desperate Damsel?: How do you let him know you’re interested in him without looking desperate?
Ask Joy: Seeking Signs: How do you know if you’ve heard from God before entering into a relationship?
Ask Joy: Wise Counsel Woes: When your sources for wise counsel disagree
Ask Joy: E-Harmony Hang Ups: Thoughts on online dating sites
Guest Post: “The Male Factor”: Stephanie reviews the book by Shaunti Feldhahn
Ask Joy: Fumbling Friend: What do you say to a friend who is dating a non-Christ-follower?
Guest Post: Singled Out Stephanie: A single’s review of the Love and Respect Small Group DVD Series
Who Pursues? Part 2: What prevents you from pursuing/being pursued?
Summer School With June: A letter to Joy’s friend, June, about the months before her death
Who Pursues? Part 1: Scripture doesn’t say the man has to pursue!
C.S. Lewis: The Thrill: C.S. Lewis on the thrill of love
C.S. Lewis: On Love: C.S. Lewis on being in love and staying there
God Is My Big Bully: How do you forgive people who have hurt you?
Stuff I Like: England, Guinness & Unicorns: Joy shares travel recommendations for the London-y Oxford area.
Guest Post: Erin Hobbie – Trust Me: Trusting God as an “older single”
RSOTU: Follow Up with Emerson Eggerichs Pt 2: What to say when guys respond with, “Yeah! You should respect me, woman!”
RSOTU: Follow Up with Emerson Eggerichs Pt 1: How does a woman practically and tangibly show respect in a relationship?
Guest Post: All Groan Up: Interview with fellow Westmont Alum, Paul Angone
Guest Post: 4Word Women: Joy’s interview with 4word Women
Ask Joy: Crazy Controlling Cleo: Salvaging a relationship when one person is really controlling
Emotional Boundaries or “How to Chat in a Cemetery.”: Knowing when and how to share things in a relationship
Gang Member’s Guest Post Pt 2: Sharideth Shares: Interview with Sharideth Smith
Gang Member’s Guest Post Pt 1: Deep Thoughts By David: Interview with David T. Robbins
Ask Joy: What Does Weird Wally Do?: Dealing with your significant other’s weird secrets
Wedding Wha! Ha! Ha!: Funny wedding photos to make you laugh
Wedding Season “Choose Your Own Adventure”: Choose your own adventure before your next wedding.
Know Me: Art of Asking Questions & Listening Part 3: Asking questions and listening to seek wisdom from others
Know Me: Art of Asking Questions & Listening Part 2: Asking questions and listening in dating
Know Me: Art of Asking Questions & Listening Part 1: Asking questions and listening during mingle time
Ask Joy: ASKS YOU! Little Miss Eager: She wants to be married now, but he says “patience is a virtue.”
Ask Joy: “I can’t believe you’re still single?!”: Handling the “I can’t believe you’re still single!” comments
Ask Joy: Guard Your Heart: What does “guard your heart” actualllly mean?
Ask Joy: Tough Talk Pt 3: Shocked: What do you do when your struggles look different from his?
Ask Joy: Tough Talk Pt 2: Should I?: Bringing up a hard conversation + vulnerability vs. transparency
Ask Joy: Tough Talk Pt 1: Safety: Getting a guy to open up with shoulder-to-shoulder activities
RSOTU: Guys Response (Pt. 15 of 15): Guys address when a girl might be fearful of showing respect.
RSOTU: Guys Response (Pt. 14 of 15): Guys share how to show respect with a look and with words.
RSOTU: Guys Response (Pt. 13 of 15): Guys share how to show respect by affirming guy friends and guy time.
RSOTU: Guys Response (Pt. 12 of 15): Guys share specific stories of when they were respected/disrespected.
RSOTU: Guys Response (Pt. 11 of 15): Guys share their relationship status & what makes them feel respected.
RSOTU: Respect Letter (Pt. 10 of 15): What is a respect letter and how do you write it?
RSOTU: Disrespectful Attitude (Pt. 9 of 15): What does a disrespectful attitude look like? You’ll see.
RSOTU: Is Respect Giving In? (Pt. 8 of 15): Communicating with respect when it doesn’t seem fair
RSOTU: Practical Ways To Show Respect (Pt. 7 of 15): For women it’s easy to show love, but how do you show respect?
RSOTU: Respectfully Decline Date (Pt. 6 of 15): Respectfully declining a date and possible unrealistic expectations
RSOTU: Respect Unkind Words (Pt. 5 of 15): Wise and respectful ways to confront hurtful communication
RSOTU: Respect When We Don’t Feel Loved (Pt. 4 of 15): Showing respect when something makes you feel unloved
RSOTU: Social Cues for Showing Respect (3 of 15): Showing respect to a guy you’ve just met
RSOTU: Fear Impacting Respect (Pt. 2 of 15): Do past hurts or fears impact how we understand respect?
Respect State of The Union: Intro (Pt. 1 of 15): Introduction to a 15-part series about the word “Respect.” Oy!
Ask Joy: ASKS YOU! Not Normal Ned: Is it normal if you’re ______ years old and have never dated?
Ask Joy: Shuttin’ Sexuality Down: How can you be sexual without having sex?
Ask Joy: God’s Symphony Gone Flat?: What if you thought God brought you together, but then he walks away?
Stuff I Like: Strengths Finder Personality Profile: Strengths Finder + identifying what we’re bringing to the table
Ask Joy: Fooled by Facebook: How to stop getting emotionally attached to guys on Facebook
Ask Joy: Wedding? Why?: Is it OK if you want to be single your whole life?
The One: Part 3 – What If There’s No-One?: How to respond if you feel like there’s no one
Do Age Differences Matter? Ask Joy: How old is too old? How young is too young?
The One: Part 2 – “How Do I Know?”: How do you know that the one is “The One?”
Ask Joy: Twitter Answer: Joy answers #AskJoys in tweets.
Ask Joy: Getting Set Up On The Commune: Single? How to encourage and be encouraged by your community. And get set up.
The One: Part 1 – “Is There Only One?”: Should we be looking for “the one?”
Ask Joy: Lusting Larry, Fearful Fawn & J Crew Carl (Pt. 4): Understanding our different designs when it comes to sex
Ask Joy: Lusting Larry, Fearful Fawn & J Crew Carl (Pt. 3): Men and women are equally sexual, but stimulated differently.
Ask Joy: Lusting Larry, Fearful Fawn & J Crew Carl (Pt. 2): Why aren’t girls turned on by looks as much as guys are?
Ask Joy: Lusting Larry, Fearful Fawn & J Crew Carl (Pt. 1): What is the purpose of lust?
Ask Joy: Thai Food, Coffee Shops, and Yokes: Faith differences in dating
Ask Joy: Texting Tantrum: Fighting over text and how to stop
So Now What? (Part 5 of 5): How do you empower and support a man?
So Now What? (Part 4 of 5): We need to change our actions instead of being cynical.
So Now What? (Part 3 of 5): Fear can create generalizations. Don’t do it.
So Now What? (Part 2 of 5): Some articles and research can be one-sided.
So Now Wbhat? (Part 1 of 5): Joy responds to an article asking, “Where Have All The Good Men Gone?”
Ask Joy: ASKS YOU! Playing Hard To Get?: Why is it that we are interested in someone until they show interest back — and then we put our guard up?
Ask Joy: Get off Me Shikona!: Giving up your life plans for a guy or girl–is this ever right?
Ask Joy: Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde, and Whiskey: Showing respect when it isn’t easy or deserved
Get Behind Me You Sedan Salesman!: The tension between autonomy and authority
Ask Joy: Church Creeper x2: Advice for when you don’t know a guy super well, but he wants to go on a date
Stuff I Like: Page CXVI: Joy shares another one of her favorite bands.
Ask Joy: Lonely and Line Dancing: Advice for a girl who has never been in a relationship
Guest Post: For Imago Dei Women: Five traits of people who do well in the tension of being single
Ask Joy: Can Anxious Andy Commit?: Does doubt-free, 100% commitment actually exist?
Ask Joy: My Head Told My Heart: Why is it so hard to let go of feelings for someone you know isn’t good for you?
Ten Thoughts From Joy On Valentine’s Day: Thoughts on pink, office dynamics and 2/14
Ask Joy: Premarital Sex and Your Local Library: What does the Bible say about premarital sex?
Ask Joy: I Will Rip Out Your Little Red Ponytail!: They aren’t married yet for financial reasons. Is this OK?
Ask Joy: Friends Who Sing About Macaroni: She likes him. She’s not sure if he reciprocates. What should she do?
Ask Joy: Johnny, Facebook and Porn, Oh My!: When the grass looks greener on the other side and you can’t deal with reality.
Ask Joy: Keg Stands and Strippers: Approaching the conversation when you don’t feel comfortable with bachelor/bachelorette parties
Ask Joy: Nice Guy Ned: Encouragement for the “nice guys” who might be feeling discouraged
Ask Joy: 18 and Ready to Wed: Red flags and green flags if you’re wanting to marry young
Ask Joy: “Kind of Accidentally”: Hookup culture and what to do after it “happens”
Ask Joy: Long Distance Three Armed Love: A few factors to consider with long-distance dating
Stuff I Like: Destiny Craft Her Pants: Destiny’s awesome crafting blog
Ask Joy: Craving Air: What to do if he’d “rather be loved than respected”
Ask Joy: Block Throwin’ Billy: Encouraging a husband in parenting
Ask Joy: Girl Power and Boy Belief: Shifting the generalization that “all men are childish”
Ask Joy: Women Who Fall and Men Who Are Tall: Generalizations men make about women (and vice versa)
Top Ten of 2010: Top posts and weird searches of 2010
Ask Joy: Phone Conversations and Porn Confrontations: Separating trust and respect when a husband uses porn
Ask Joy: Not a Fan of My Baby Boy’s Babe: Guiding a son through a serious relationship. Advice for moms.
Ask Joy: Welcoming Skeletons: Advice for a girl who just got out of a bad relationship and is not a virgin anymore
Stuff I Like: Free CD’s and My First Nephew: Joy shares a (once free) album and a letter to her nephew.
Ask Joy: Fighting Ain’t Right! (or is it?): When is conflict healthy or unhealthy?
Ask Joy: No Boys?: Do your own Formal Lunch.
Formal Lunch – Part 6: The Dating Game: Joy, Erin and Jenny discuss how to glorify God in dating.
Formal Lunch – Part 5: Healthy, God-Centered Sexuality Continued: The black, white and grey of sexuality
Formal Lunch – Part 4: Healthy, God-Centered Sexuality: What to do with sexuality when single
Formal Lunch – Part 3: Peace, Feelings & Dating: “Having peace” and feelings when dating
Formal Lunch – Part 2: Communication with Men: Asking men how they want to be respected
Formal Lunch – Part 1: Loving Men: Loving men well when single.
Ask Joy: Tear Jerk-er: Some advice on giving advice
Stuff I Like: Pilgrims and Fly Girls: Joy shares a video from Con Bro Chill, and she’s in it.
Ask Joy: Biceps and Big Brains: Sharing intimate details of past relationships
Ask Joy: I Cheated. Can I call her now?: Advice to a guy who recently cheated and wants forgiveness
Stuff I Like: Julie and her Craftmazement: Apartment inspiration from Joy’s friend, Julie
Ask Joy: Salt in the Wound: Tips for how to guide someone through past pains
Ask Joy: 36-24-36…only if she’s 5’3!: The importance of physical beauty
Ask Joy: Ehartmatchemistry.com: The pros and cons of online dating
3 Things I Have Learned While Being Single: Joy shares things to learn from singleness.
Stuff I Like: Erin Hobbie: A poem and two videos with Joy’s friend, Erin
Ask Joy: Tour de Chivalry: What does “chivalry” look like today?
Ask Joy: Will It Work?: Can respect be used to win a guy back?
Ask Joy: I Want Your Body. No Wait, I Don’t: What does sexual attraction look like 5 years into marriage?
Ask Joy: Definition of Love and Crazies: What does it mean to be “madly in love?”
Stuff I Like: My Sweet Carolyne – A Follower: Joy shares the story of when her friend, Carolyne, thought she had snuck out.
Daddy-Daughter-Discussion: Emerson interviews Joy on how respect actually empowers women.
Stuff Joy Likes: Air Hockey and A Homily: Reflections from Joy and Mike on a recent wedding
Ask Joy: How To Break It Off?: Breakups “when you just aren’t feeling it”
Guest Blogger: Morgan Van Epp Cutlip: Morgan discusses hope for marriage.
Ask Joy: Is This Meant To Be? : Joy and Emerson discuss marital tensions and how to work through it.
Stuff I Like: Thad Cockerell: Joy shares why she adores Thad Cockerell’s music.
My Story: Why Joy created Love and Respect Now
Stuff I Like: How to be Alone: A popular video on how to be alone
Safe Identity: How past loves can shape our identity
Stuff I Like: Women: Joy reflects on a recent speaking engagement.
Ask Joy: Gender Stereotypes?: The pros and cons of gender stereotypes
Stuff I Like: Tripp’s Blog: A comedy blog that is totally worth your time
Fro Yo and Respect: Joy shares a conversation about respect.
Eat, Pray, Love it?: Review of the book Eat, Pray, Love and some questions for you
Stuff I Like: Bonhoeffer Bio: Joy’s love for Hitler, WWII and Bonhoeffer
Jerk?: The implication of saying, “Guys are jerks!”
Stuff I Like: Jerks: Thoughts on the book How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk
MY RESPONSE: Calling All Guyyyyys….: Joy answers questions submitted by the guys.
Stuff I Like: Quotes: Discussion on a quote about marriage and this generation
Floating Ideas….: Discernment in the “information age”
Calling All Guyyyyyys….: Call for questions from guys who want to get in the head of women
Stuff I Like: Gender Stereotypes Take II: Another funny video about gender stereotypes
Stuff I Like: Inception: Review of the “new” movie, Inception
Ask Joy: Should I Dance?: Respectfully communicating a challenging topic & building trust
Stuff I Like: “Harmony Called Me”: Joy discusses tunes from her friend, “Ragnar.”
Singleness and the Church: BELIEF… and the ready to wed.: What to do if you aren’t satisfied with being single
Singleness and the Church: BELIEF… and the satisfied single: What it looks like to be a “satisfied single”
Stuff I Like: Fenelon: A letter by Francois de Salignac de La Mothe Fenelon
A bit more of my story…: Joy shares her story + a slew of guest posts.
Stuff I Like: R & R: Why anticipation of vacation is the best part
Stuff I Like: All for me! (Mixed CD’s and more): Joy shares her love for mixed CD’s + a new song.
Singleness and the Church: Part II: Results of Joy’s research on singleness & the church
Stuff I Like: Long Earlobes: Timeless wisdom from John Wooden
Ask Joy: Move For Boyfriend?: Being obedient in dating, while also experiencing freedom
Stuff I Like: Old Stories: Why Joy likes to re-read things
Singleness and the Church: A Helping Hand May Help: Joy discusses her research on singleness and the church.
Stuff I Like: Blood and the Middle East: Joy discusses the band “Middle East,” and the song “Blood.” (Geez, guys.)
Is Respect Only Earned?: The biblical command to unconditionally…respect
Stuff I Like: Reconnecting and Ruminate: Discussion of the magazine, Ruminate
Ask Joy: Fickle Men: Why we can’t say, “All men are fickle men.”
Stuff I Like: Jack Johnson & His Wedding Ring: The very first time Joy heard Jack Johnson
NEW, NOW & LATER: Why we should work to make relationships last
Stuff I Like: Opening Bands: Joy discusses all things SeaBird.
Ask Joy: Emotional Boundaries: Emotional boundaries in dating–whaaaat??
Stuff I Like: Games: New, important games such as soccer tennis
What’s Your Romance Novel?: Thoughts on romance novels and unrealistic expectations
Stuff I Like: Mauve and Teal: Why choose this church over that church?
I Have Seen..: Joy writes a poem!
Stuff I Like: Old Men: Why Joy likes to visit the retirement home
Ask Joy: Why Are Women Mentally Incompetent?: Why women are actually quite mentally competent
Stuff I Like: Michigan State University: The difference between MSU and U of M–you should know this.
Analyze this…: The value of wise counsel during breakups
Stuff I Like: Gender Stereotypes: Joy shares a funny video about gender stereotypes.
Five Again: Joy shares how she came to faith at the age of five.
Stuff I Like: Music Videos: The music of Joy’s friend, Sam Martin
Ask Joy: Mommy Me: Some words of encouragement for single moms
Stuff I Like: Lil’ White Chapel: The story of The Chapel That Didn’t Burn
Fantasy is Not Reality: How is porn affecting this generation?
Stuff I Like: Eating With Friends: Joy’s love of breakfast and a challenge for you
I Understand…: The unknowns of faith and the walk of the disciples
Stuff I Like: Listening Ladies: A passage from one of Joy’s favorite devotionals, God Calling
If by “Magical” you mean…: Discussion of the “magic” of falling in love on The Bachelor
Stuff I Like: Music: Joy shares her love of Annie Bethancourt.
Ask Joy: Any Dude?: How do you know if this guy is the one God wants for you?
Stuff I Like: A Book: Why We Love the Church by Kevin DeYoung and Ted Kluck
She’s a Man-Hater: The risk of making extreme statements about gender
Stuff I Like: Built in Bookshelves: Joy shares why she loves built-in bookshelves. (Hint: Cozy)
My State of the Union: What’s going on in week 6 of 2010?
Stuff I Like: Younicornme: That one time Joy’s favorite app went live
What Are You Fighting For?: The value of submitting to authority
Stuff I Like: Mumford and Sons: Joy discusses the lyrics of Mumford and Sons.
Swim, baby, swim!: Joy writes a letter to Christians who are encouraging divorce.
“I Have Trust Issues” Pt. 3: Joy discusses how authentic community builds trust.
Stuff I like: Stephanie Bassos Photography: Joy shares art from an old friend.
Please…I beg of you, put your money & prayers where your mouth is: Pat Robertson-bashing and Christian love
500 Days of Summer: Film Review: Joy reviews the movie, “500 Days of Summer.”
“I Have Trust Issues” Pt. 2: How does current media affect how we trust one another?
“I Have Trust Issues” Pt. 1: Joy discusses the societal and relational implications of distrust.
“Joy, Why Are You Doing This?”: Introducing the “Ask Joy” section of the site
All I want for Christmas: Joy hopes you will feel the love and peace of Christ.
The Look: Expectations in dating and “needy” people
Hug It Out: Healthy physical touch and the power of the hug
It’s been a hard days night: Music & verses for when it’s been “one of those days”
Advent Conspiracy: Tis the Season: How can gift-giving reflect what we believe?
Silent in Switzerland: Joy discusses one of the most challenging parts of her story.
Unicorn Monday Magic: Important discussions about why unicorns exist + Ryan Gosling
History Repeats Itself: How history can repeat itself in relationships (and history)
Nothing New Under the Pulpit: The posture of your heart can change how you hear.
It’s not that you’re not marriage material… but you smell like cabbage.: Dating rules learned at Pepperdine University
I blame communism…: How do our actions represent our Christian faith?
We no longer search for the news, the news finds us: Joy shares a short video discussing the impact of social media.
Breaking up with Jesus: How the words we use can shape our view of God.
Five Weddings and a Funeral: Similarities between weddings and funerals + a prayer
Attempted Attack Gone Awry: Joy discusses an attempted attack and the challenge of 1 Peter.
Ignorance: The state of being uneducated, unaware, or uninformed: Discussion on heart surgery and how to prepare for marriage
Jon Foreman: Learning How To Die: Joy discusses her love for these song lyrics.
Did Michael Jackson Feng Shui?: Joy discusses the brevity of life.
Unicorn Tears: Joy introduces her love of unicorns with a funny video.
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Good thing it’s super slow at work. This is a lot of good reading I need to get to. On the plus side, I’ve been around here since probably 2011 or so, so I don’t have all of it to catch up on! Thanks for the list!
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