We attended a Love and Respect conference in Chicago 5 years ago and it changed our lives. It gave us the tools to make our great marriage even better.
Now, we’re planning to go through the Love and Respect DVD series with our young adult Bible study and we’d like your advice on how to best lead it when there are people in all seasons of life in the group–single, dating, engaged, and married.
Do you have any suggestions, tips, and additional resources you could give us?
–Nathan and Dana
p.s. Speaking of resources–check out our latest project, The Illumination Project, HERE.
What have been some good/bad experiences you’ve had with mentoring–whether learning from an older person or trying to teach someone younger?
Why do you think (I think) asking questions is so important?
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I have never had a bad experience with mentoring; either being the mentor or the mentored. Yes there are good and bad mentors and mentees, but you can always learn from their experiences; good, I think I will do that too, or bad, I am so not going to make that decision when that time comes.
Asking questions is very important, but if you haven’t ‘experienced this/that’ too often we do not know what questions to ask. There are a lot of questions I wish I would’ve asked before my marriage that ended in divorce, but I didn’t know what questions to ask. The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why? A lot of really good questions you should ask yourself before getting married in that book.
L&R $0.02:
I attended Love & respect for the first time 11 months after my divorce; it is now offered twice a year at my church. I was so impressed I bought the DVD series for myself. I now offer it once a year as a small group for the 30:40 life stage group I belong to as I am sure it and FPU* would’ve saved my marriage. Sadly I get a lot of “I will wait until I am married to read/watch Love & Respect, why would I want it before I am married?” To which I promptly reply “Did you go buy a car before you learned to drive?”
The L&R DVDs and FPU are my default wedding gifts for friends when they are getting married.
Mentoring $0.02:
There is an overabundance of older men in the church, the problem is they are not mature and are not biblical leaders they should be. If we older men in the church are not or cannot train up the younger men, what chance do they have? The next generation needs those with more experience to be more mature to train up that next generation.
*Financial Peace University
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