Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15)
Men: Have you ever been asked by a woman how you feel most honored and respected? Dishonored and respected? Did you feel awkward sharing?
Women: Have you ever asked these questions of the men in your life? What was the response? Does the idea of asking feel awkward or uncomfortable? Why do you think?
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Being vulnerable to sharing personal stories and information with a camera (hiding a whole world out there hungry for wisdom and truth) is a real sign of brute strength and dauntless courage. Your willingness is very encouraging. Thanks, men.
Lisa – Isn’t amazing what we find out when we ask and then listen?
Erin – You’re welcome. Oh wait, I’m not a man…I just play one on TV.
I am yet to get a serious answer out of my husband about what makes him feel respected.
Thank you, panel of men, for sharing with us. Its greatly appreciated.
i haven’t outright asked men in my life these questions. mostly because there aren’t too many men in my life (dad, brother, nephew). don’t have any single guy friends. maybe i should move to portland! 😉
in all seriousness, i think second first married guy hit the nail on the head. we weren’t taught to do ask these things. to behave in those ways. it’s a constant effort to not let that scathing comment not leave my lips when a guy in my life does something wrong or messes up. i will say, since i’ve been made aware of this need of men for respect, i’ve made intentional efforts to evaluate how i had been treating men. i don’t think i was too bad. but there’s always room for improvement. 🙂
thanks for all you do joy!
Mary – It might just mean you are doing a really good job! Have you ever asked him what makes him feel disrespected? That might also be a good starting point for awareness.
Rebekah – You are welcome! Thanks for the encouragement. I think we will always have room to grow…and room to move. Come on over to Portland. (-:
I wonder if there is ever a fine line between being cute about stuff like that — “You knocked that over with your big man body” — and teasing that crosses the line into cutting/barbs. I kept crossing that line with a guy friend, and it was hard to know that I was about to cross it… far easier to know after the fact. Eek! I’m not sure if he would be willing to tell me know what those line-crossing aspects were… esp. since he’s now married. Hmm… (Wonder if I could get his wife to ask him!)
lisa thinks...
When I asked my husband how he viewed respect, I realized I had some preconceived ideas that needed to be shelved. Tailoring the respect factor to his needs is priority!
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