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I’ve been told that one should never explain a joke, but just in case you have never been to a bookstore, the following series is a spin-off on the book, Tuesdays with Morrie.
For a smattering of Tuesdays throughout the summer, I will be bringing you episodes of my conversations with Dr. Norm Thiesen, a professor of counseling at Western Seminary. Not only have I taken classes from him, but he also counseled me and the man I almost married (duh duh duhhhhhhhhhh)–you’ll hear more about that in the last episode as “Normie” (as I call him in my head) turns the tables on me and becomes the interviewer.
And makes me wildly uncomfortable.
One of the biggest lessons I have learned, which can help us in life and love, is to seek wise counsel.
So this is me doing just that–and having a little fun, too.
From my Tuesday-lovin’ heart,
Joy
P.S. Did you find this insightful? Don’t miss the second Tuesday with Normie about 21st century marriage.
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I agree with you, Joy. As a older guy, I find that I am much more comfortable in my singleness. I’ve settled into a lifestyle that would be extremely disrupted by adding another person. I know my introvert personality doesn’t help either. Also, to reiterate Dr. Norm, I have watched some “perfect” marriages fall apart around me. Watching that happen in not encouraging. I would rather avoid that conflict and stay in my shell.
Hey Nathan – I feel you. But hopefully I wasn’t communicating that I think that’s what we all should do even though at times it can feel safer. I would encourage you to think through your whole life and if you really don’t have a desire to be in relationship or marry or have children, then singleness can be a fulfilling life, but if you are choosing singleness simply because relationship is hard, then that might be something to evaluate. It CAN be full of richness and a beautiful gift from God and many of my married friends can attest to that. Even though being single can feel easier at times, I keep in the dating game (even when it’s annoying) because I know ultimately I would like to be with someone.
Being single is certainly easier, and I understand your point of view. I know that you desire a relationship; I pray that God will fulfill your desire. I have mixed feelings about relationships. I am very comfortable being single. I am also comfortable being in a relationship. However, I HATE the dating game. It has never made sense to me. Growing up, I had the idea that I would find a wife within the confines of my church family. At one point, I thought I had found her but that fell apart. Since then, I have become content in my loneliness and stopped dating altogether. The desire for a relationship is still there, but I just cannot bring myself to get into the dating scene again. Frankly, I would’ve been better off in a culture with arranged marriages. LOL
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Lovin’ this episode already! 🙂 Thanks Joy and Dr. Norm!
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