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In this episode we opened with us reliving the time I was trying to be HI-LAR-IOUS, and gave myself third degree burns.
And then things got real.
Listen in as we talk about what couples do in their later years based on the foundation and patterns they created in their early years. Normie gives insight into one simple thing you can do to drastically change your level of satisfaction and happiness in marriage.
And then arranged marriages.
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From my heart,
Joy
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Nathan thinks...
These are wonderful videos, and I’m really hoping the “arranged marriages” is a teaser for next week. I’ve said before, I am suited more toward a culture of arrangement than dating.
But to what was said in this video: It reminds me of the old book “How to win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. The last portion of the book discusses a happier marriage. One of the points he makes is to pay little attentions. The section is mostly aimed toward men, but it applies to everyone. He points out how flowers make women feel appreciated, the importance of remembering certain dates (i.e. anniversaries and birthdays), and maybe the occasional breakfast in bed. Little attentions “shows the person you love that you are thinking of her, that you want to please her, and that her happiness and welfare are very dear, and very near, to your heart.” This reminds me of my parents. As my dad leaves for work, he kisses my mom goodbye. When he gets home, he kisses her hello. It’s a small thing that he has done for their entire 40 years of marriage, even when they are mad at each other, but that little attention makes my mom’s day.
Another point in the book is one brought up by Dr. Thiesen: Don’t try to change your spouse. In my ignorant and sexist opinion, this is more of a problem for women than men. (My Observation) Women tend to change themselves in the beginning of the relationship to become compatible with the guy, then try to change the guy once they are married. Again, my observation and opinion. If both parties were honest and real at the beginning of the relationship, then there would be no need for major changes during the relationship. Some change is always necessary as you are colliding two lives together. However, the overall person should not change. Also, we are naturally resistant to change. Therefore, trying to change your partner is usually fruitless and leads to conflict. If a change truly needs to occur, the person must realize it themselves through self-evaluation and honest friends. Then, they can put the effort into changing themselves. I’m getting long-winded (and I need to go back to work), so I will end this rant by saying, be blessed.
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