Hey friendlings,
We’ve finally come to the finish line of the What I Know Now series, a collection of little videos I made with my parents in celebration of The Illumination Project launch. My mom and pop have been sharing some nuggets of wisdom they’ve learned from different stages of their lives.
My dad may have just written a book on parenting called Love and Respect in the Family, but my mom is just as insightful. And by insightful I mean, “made just as many mistakes.”
No parent is perfect, but hopefully you’ll gain some of the wisdom she wishes she would have known while raising my two brothers.
And even though this video is about moms and their sons, I, the Eggerichs’ perfect child, have something to offer you:
Because my dad just published Love and Respect in the Family (and because I like you), if you join the discussion in the comment section below, you’ll be entered to win a free copy of the new book!
So sit back and enjoy the video, and let’s start talkin’!
P.s. What’s this shoulder-to-shoulder business? Learn more HERE. Or, check out my dad’s first book, Love and Respect.
Parents, what additional advice can you give to new moms who are raising boys?
Kids, what advice can YOU give based on how you were raised—what worked/didn’t work with your mothers?
Leave a comment to win…
If your name gets drawn we will email you to get your address, social security, police record, and last known whereabouts…and then send you your free copy of Love and Respect in the Family. Woohoo!
Love and Respect (Now) is a division of Love and Respect. Please be considerate.
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Joy, I have been following you on twitter for some time now as I am a huge fan of your parents’ first book. I went through a teleconference through my church 6 years ago based on “Love and Respect” with my fiancé at the time. It was eye opening.
I am very excited for your dad’s new book as I now have 2 daughters, 2 years old and 2 weeks old. I can’t wait to share this with my husband.
I come from a divorced family and I, too, have 2 brothers in their 30’s. This little video of your mom talking about how she wish she knew some things when your brothers were younger brought tears to my eyes. I see my mom struggle with having a healthy relationship with my brothers and I believe there are changes she can make even now to foster a better relationship with them! I want to encourage her that it’s not too late! I think she can implement “shoulder-to-shoulder” parenting even while not physically side by side – by asking less questions and just waiting for the communication to flow from their end. I am certainly going to pass this video on to her!
Thank you so much for the passion you and your family have for making relationships in the home biblically-based and also the healthiest they can be.
Grateful,
Brittney Hughes
It’s funny, I had the same conversations with my mom when I was in elementary school. I think I even told her if anything changes, I’ll let you know. Being an extrovert and female, I don’t think that came from the same place as it did for your brothers, but the dialogue is certainly familiar.
I’m feeling a little left out though. I’m pregnant with my first child, a girl! I suppose same-gender parent-child relationships come a little easier than cross-gender, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Does anybody have “what I wish I knew then” advice for me?
So, I don’t know about you, but my mother always tried to have a relationship with me much like Rory and Lorelai did on Gilmore Girls. She would drop me off at school and yell, “BYE RORY!” It was a bit comical and I was completely and utterly embarrassed. However, I think my mother’s humor and quirkiness made me the funny and quirky person I am today. I’m thankful for that.
I really liked this video! The thought of treating my son the way that I would hope my future daughter in law would treat him is a great idea! Definitely will translate to a more respectful behavior.
Your website is amazing!
Keep up the good work and fun times! 🙂
I think it is so true about not asking the yes and no questions. I find myself doing that all the time with all of my children. My oldest and only boy is 17 and my girls are 9 and 7 and practically every day I ask how their day was and what did they do. I find myself even asking my husband the same question! Right now at our church we are going through the Love & Respect study and it totally hitting home. If I were to win this book it would be a true blessing as we as a family have been struggling a lot lately. Thank you for the opportunity and thank you for sharing your wisdom with the rest of us who truly need it.
Wow! I don’t have any sons, but I do have brothers and I can relate the stop asking questions to them. Sometimes it’s hard to be okay with not talking at all and not take it personally – “Oh, he’s mad at me…”. But I definitely see the importance of not pushing for answers.
Btw, I saw your dad’s first book in a client’s house I was helping pack to move a couple days ago. Neither of them are Christians, so I thought it was interesting to see Love and Respect being packed up to move with them. Hmmm…:)
I’m not married and have no kids, but I have 5 nephews. Sometimes there’s lots of talking and I find stuff out chatting with them and sometimes we can go for quite some time being quiet in the car and they will offer deeper conversation or ask bigger questions. True stuff from your mama with the best first name in the world. The comic strip “Zits” hits this subject on the head quite often ;)-
Lisa Chase thinks...
My husband & I thought that somehow the concepts of Love & Respect must translate also to our children. We are loving these videos and hearing what that translation is in real life. We must get this book!
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