Hi-ya friends!
Summer-fun discussion got going as people weighed in on THIS video I posted recently. A few (good) men said that maybe the guy didn’t want to be “official” because he was scared or had past wounds.
So this new video explains what I would say to a guy who is trying to be honest and say he needs time and isn’t ready to commit.
I believe “the how” we confront people is just as important as what we are confronting them about. Asking questions the right way can lead to extreme clarity for you both. One that could possibly lead to a real commitment.
Walter and I show you what it practically looks like…
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From my breaking and entering heart,
Joy
P.S. Ten points for knowing what language of L&R I’m holding.
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Thanks Nathan!
Going for the 10 points! The copy of “Love & Respect” that you’re holding is in German!
Ding ding ding!!! I’ll give you 11 points since you were the first to answer correctly.
Great video — as always — and awesome insight about her asking him questions. Not only does it show she is interested in helping him get to the root cause of what ever he is going through, it will help them work together on something that is very deep and see how they work it out.
Typically I am more reserved when my sisters say “he isn’t ready to commit” as too often it ends poorly for the woman who got attached without all the information. I also loved the “If you were in my shoes” question as it allows him to evaluate the entire situation from outside his shoes. This will help him determine if ‘she is wasting her time,’ and help him to explore his intentions.
Thanks Aron – yes I think if we can help someone evaluate their intentions rather than assume their intentions, we will hopefully put the good hearted people at ease instead of on the chopping block.
We often judge ourselves by our intentions but others by their actions. -The Noticer.
Yes! This applies to road rage so well. (-:
Praying for wisdom is so huge. And praying for wisdom for the other person as well. Also, I may have a diary key from my teen years that could open that little lock behind you 😉
Nathan thinks...
Very well said! His honesty about his hesitation may be his “cry” for help. A discerning spirit is extremely important in this situation.
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