Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Introduction
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #1
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #2
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #3
Can Guys & Girls Be Friends? Question #4
My boyfriend (or girlfriend) has issues with me being friends with this particular person of the opposite sex. How should I handle it?
P.S. Here was yesterday’s Facebook preview for today’s post thanks to our video guy having too much time on his hands and too much extra footage. It pretty much solidifies the “why” behind my singleness. WATCH HERE
What are some reasons you may be resistent to honoring your boyfriend or girlfriend’s request to re-evaluate a friendship with someone of the opposite sex?
What can you do if you’re having trouble discerning whether or not your significant other’s request is healthy or not?
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If my imaginary girlfriend asked me to stop being friends with someone I’d known for years and was like a sister to me, I wouldn’t feel the need to re-evaluate my friendship with my friend. I’d be more likely to ask my hallucinatory significant other why she felt threatened by this other girl and what (besides unfriending them) I could do to set her mind at ease.
It’s like if Ron asked Hermione to stop being friends with Harry. I think Hermione would asked if he’d been Confunded or something. (And thus solidifying the “why” behind MY singleness.)
As to your other question; if I couldn’t determine the health of the request, I’d probably ask some neutral 3rd parties who knew everyone involved if they could see a valid reason for the request.
@JOY, Lame. Note I said “lame”.
I wish….I had seen this approximately 3 years ago. One of my very best friends is a dude and there was a period of time (a year!) I “wasn’t allowed” to talk to him or any of my other guy friends because my boyfriend at the time wasn’t comfortable with me associating with other guys. He didn’t even like my brothers all that much. Danger! DANGER! I should have clued in to this sooner. Alas, I did not.
This is good stuff, Joy. Thank you!
@Mandie, You are welcome. I have experienced things similar as well. I believe the Lord can use our hurt! My pastor actually did an incredible sermon on this last Sunday. You should check it out: http://www.imagodeicommunity.com/sunday/sermon-archive/
unrelated to the content (kind of):
great outfit you got on and brilliant girl/guy voice use. also, it sounds like you say $*%t.
Related to the content: Something that my ex boyfriend did when we were dating that I appreciated was when he told me up front about his close female friends (he only had a few) and then said, “these are people I would love for you to get to know and hopefully form your own friendships with.” He brought me into those friendships so that I was included and all 3 of us could be friends. It wasn’t forced or demanding just clear on his intentions and desires. This made me feel honored while also honoring the friendships he had formed healthily with those women.
ps. you were one of them. and look at us now.
@Hayley, How do you know I don’t say that? jk. It’s SHED. Get your mind out of the gutter.
I love your story. I knew the PS was going to end in a warm fuzzy. I applaud your ex for this intentionality in that and am SO appreciative that he did. Love you.
sharideth smith thinks...
oh man, beware the paranoid freak out.
danger, Will Robinson!!!
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