If nothing else, please just watch the first 25 seconds of this video. 
If you stay for longer, you’ll find out that red flags are not the only relationship flags on the table.
Yes.
And since people always want to know, “Is this a red flag?” and I happen to be color blind* and single, I thought maaaaybe Normie should answer this one.
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From my heart,
Joy
P.S. If you haven’t seen Normie’s other appearances, check out numero uno, dos, tres and cinco.
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I *love* the emphasis you guys put on wise counsel. My parents are so good for that, and have always been active in that for me, so I find it hard to wrap my head around the average person who does not want to have their family involved.
I figure (as the eldest of 10 siblings), any guy who wants to be around me is going to have to deal with (ha! and hopefully love) my family, so why not throw him in the deep end immediately?
(Which, funnily enough, is what happened when my 14 year old brother sent a message asking about intentions to someone I had just met and then he replied with some surprising… and sweet 🙂 thoughts. So, we’ll see how that goes. Obviously the crazy 14yr old hasn’t scared him off yet!)
I agree with him on red and yellow flags. We all have stuff from our pasts. There are things that can worked through while in a relationship and things that should be avoided altogether (red flags). I’ve definitely blown through some wise counsel in my time and found myself in some bad relationships (because love prevails… right?). I guess I have never thought of introducing a girl to family as a huge deal. Not that I don’t mind, but more because my family is weird and I want to avoid the embarrassment.
lesson learned (hopefully!) thinks...
Geez– I literally just lived this! So painful, but better to endure pain of ending the relationship than ignoring wise counsel & living out the consequences.
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