I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks, and last night he confided in me what he considers to be his darkest secret. It’s weird, and it freaks me out. How much would it still freak me out if this relationship were to result in marriage?
So I took a little “creative license” with this one…Enjoy!
Seriously…what could it be?? I know you guys have some weird ideas in you. And on a more serious note, how do we address people’s “things” that we may not agree with, without shaming them?
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Mandie – I love your suggestions and ideas. I have perfect visuals of all of them. But seriously – why do you and I both land on things involving feet? I think we might intuitively be on to something.
Ugh. You=hero.
I’d bet that he dresses up as a unicorn and gallops over rainbows made of skittles and gum. Go after this guy.
– he’s into the Baby Lifestyle, wears a diaper and sits in a crib
– cries while he plays Mario Cart
– stares at a picture of Jennifer Aniston
– wraps himself in a straight jacket for an all night hug
– lights candle and sings show tunes in the dark while wearing a Dorthy costume
it would help if i could spell Dorothy…
Becca – Seriously. One’s woman’s “weird” is another woman’ magical unicorn dream come true. I really wish I could trace these questions.
Sharideth – I’m still just trying to figure out what is so weird about any of your suggestions.
He could –
– binge drink hot kool-aid
– gets out all his beanie-babies and holds press meetings with them
– sings along to the Backstreet Boys
– knits scarves for colorblind people
– rides his bike around the house
– ties scrub brushes to his feet and cleans the house ala “Pippi Longstocking”
– watches Pippi Longstocking
– tie-dyes his underwear
– hang upside down from his balcony, pretending to be a bat.
That would be pretty weird.
“ties scrub brushes to his feet and cleans the house ala pippi longstocking” followed by “watches pippi longstocking” literally made me laugh. Multiple times.
Wow, you filmed this in a cemetery?
Yeah! Cemetery’s are my favorite. I go to this one multiple times a week. The last video (https://loveandrespectnow.com/2011/06/ask-joy-guard-your-heart/) and the next two videos were all shot here. I checked out your blog too – like what you guys are doing!
I’ll admit it. I was giggling when I wrote them. 😉
SOMEBODY finally figured out her gravatar.
It only took blood sweat and tears. And someone who is smart.
He is a never nude…
She said it was something “weird” Jordan.
I was watching this at work (oops) and had to pull the ear buds out I was laughing so hard. 🙂
-Can massage his back with his foot.
And your back hair comment really freaked me out. haha.
Joy,
You advised the young woman who asked this question not to shame the guy about something “odd” he does in the privacy of his own home. It should be assumed he only shared this information with this young lady and didn’t intend for it to go viral. With all due respect, with everyone coming up with outlandish and over-the-tope things, trying to figure out what it is he does that is so awkard, its become neither loving or respectful to be witty at the expense of another. The truth is you know absolutely nothing about him and it may not be as bad as all that is somewhat rudely stated above. I think if he was to ever stumble upon this even by chance, he would be really hurt to see this stuff. To try and see it from his perspective, these outlandish suggestions aren’tt funny…AT ALL. In my opinion and I hope this doesn’t sound harsh, it’s a form of bullying. The reason I say this is I used to be teased a lot growing up (I was quite the dork of my neighborhood) which left some serious emotional scarring that took me a great deal to get through and the love of God to heal. I also forced myself to change personality and habital traits so that I could better fit in. I personally believe what happened in my life could have been prevented had people been more considerate and watchful of the things they said to me even in jest. That’s why why I have sympathy for the dude. So I just suggest everyone consider doing what the whole purpose of this website is about–love and respect him in the way you would want to be loved and respected if your secrets were exposed on the Internet. That is all I have to say on the matter. Take it as you will.
Mackenzie – I totally hear your heart on this and truly empathize with your bullying experience. I don’t condone that and hope you can trust my heart. I do however strongly believe that sarcasm is different than bullying. My site is riddled with sarcasm and this is often done intentionally because SO many of the things we talk about are heavy topics. A couple things so you can hopefully understand my heart…
1) People submit questions anonymously. I don’t know who she or the guy she is referencing could be. I get lots of letters so if this guy did watch this video he could have full confidence that no one would know who he was. Anonymity is something I value and protect.
2) In my video I DID tell her that she could be the one over reacting. However, this submission is riddled with red flags for me. If I was speaking to the guy directly I would probably be far more blunt and exhort his behavior. Here is a male who is speaking with a woman online who he has NEVER met. My spirit strongly doubted he is only sharing this with her and if he does watch this I hope it encourages him to be more tactful and respectful of the women he meets “online.” He should be sharing his fetishes with an older male, NOT a young female stranger online.
I stand behind the Love and Respect principles but believe that how sarcasm is different than bullying, I also think we need to laugh at ourselves from time to time as we figure out how to do relationships well. The anonymity piece allows me to address topics like this that I think need to be addressed and my approach is often humor.
I truly admire you for sharing your heart and hope you know I don’t take it lightly.
You know, I agree with this 100%. Perhaps I was over-reacing out of the painful reminders of past bad experiences. But yes, I agree: sarcasm (something I do quite often) is differant than bullying as long as it stays in its proper boundaries. So thank you for clarifying that and the two points above. I appreciate it.
Mackenzie – Thank you for writing back. It really put my heart at ease to hear from you and thank you for being humble enough to try and see where I was coming from. Again, I don’t take lightly the pain that you experienced. Blessings to you!
i am dying to know what it is!
My guess is the back hair thing.
Mandie thinks...
He…
– collects his toenail clippings and names them and when he gets home he does roll call.
– has a tea party with his cat
– eats frozen french fries by the bag
– paints pictures with his bare feet
– only showers in his bathing suit
– plucks his eyelashes. Yes, lashes.
– embroiders pillows
– sings Whitney Houston karaoke
I could keep going. I really want to know. People are fascinatingly weird.
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