Hello friendlings,
Are you aware that it’s wedding season?
I have a challenge for those of us attending weddings, and for those who are getting married this year.
Is it because it’s the one place you can go and dance the YMCA and not be judged? Or is it the Chocolate fountain? (How can you not admire the chocolate fountain?)
The challenge to myself and the other attendees this season is to be more committed to our friends who are getting married. Make a vow to stay involved in their lives.
Are you doing it to play dress up? Or to update your profile so all of your Ex’s can see how hot you are now?
My challenge would be to evaluate what your wedding reflects. Make a vow to let other’s be involved and ask the hard questions.
This video will give you some of my ideas on how to dive into these challenges. Plus, I’ll share about one wedding day role I’ve never been able to play.
It’s not what you think.
From my wedding lovin’ heart,
Joy
p.s. Have you seen the LRN “Choose Your Own Adventure” wedding chart?
Can you think of a way to honor your friends who are getting married?
What does a wedding reflect for you personally?
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Hey Rob – yes I have been working on it! Hope to take care of that soon – thanks for the reminder. But since you are here…check around the new site! There’s much more to get involved with than just the RSS feed. Hope you will check it out.
this just in! It’s fixed. let me know if it doesn’t work for you next time, Rob. Thanks!
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Thanks!
P.S. – I dig the new site. 😉
Loved this post and video Joy! A great reminder to not take a step back from our friends once they get married. So many times I’ve tried to give my newlywed friends space, but then months (and sometimes even years for those who live out of state) go by and I realize that I’ve done little to connect with them.
As a way to encourage my married family and friends, I’ve gifted Post-it love notes boxes for the last two Christmases. I recycled the idea from Becky Higgins (http://bit.ly/BHpiln) and they’ve been a huge hit. [I tweaked the gift by using plastic sandwich containers from Target (http://bit.ly/MwOkB6), real York Peppermint Patties and the verses John 13:34-35 and Philippians 4:8.] I’m thinking of redesigning them to be “love & respect” notes going forward.
I really appreciate wedding ceremonies in which the attendees are asked to verbalize their commitment to support the bride and groom. I’m baffled by couples who decide to have a small, intimate wedding, but then turn around and have a huge reception. (This doesn’t really save any money, which is often the justification.) Weddings should be a great celebration, but the celebration comes out of a community coming together to witness the vows a couple make and the commitment to support the couple in upholding them for their lifetime.
Thanks for the gift suggestions! Probably way more meaningful for your friends too.
I loved this post and was encouraged that others take attending a wedding as seriously as I do. I would have one thing to add: By attending a wedding, you’re also sitting there, witnessing this union, in support of it. You’re presence is a sign of your support that his is a good, Godly thing. Just last year, I had a friend get married to a guy who I believe was not a good guy. My family and I did not support their relationship, so we chose to not attend their wedding. Like you said, a wedding is about way more than the chocolate fountain, while it can be fun for you, it isn’t about you at all. It’s about worshiping the Lord and thanking Him for this couple and celebrating the covenant made.
Yeah – definitely a tricky and painful call. Knowing you and your family, I’m sure your friend knows how much you loved her and will support her, even though you felt like the guy was not healthy for her and couldn’t support the commitment. That’s tough!
Love, love, love, love love this. I’ve always wanted my ceremony to be more than just words and songs. I love the part about a community of friends. I’m so thankful that I feel like I have that because I know so many who don’t. You’ve given me a lot to think about for when I attend my next wedding or have my own! Thanks!
yeah! Glad to hear. I think weddings should be words, songs AND interpretive dance. Maybe some other stuff too.
I hope I am helping you overcome your fear of redheads. We’ll take things one step at a time. 🙂
This is so good! I agree completely and I love that you wrote/and video-blogged on this:) I appreciate your website!
Rob thinks...
Hey Joy. I’ve been following your blog for about a year now with my RSS reader. Recently when you switched designs the content that goes out in RSS was abbreviated. This basically defeats the purpose of using an RSS reader to speed up my catching up on blogs and news. Normally I can just read the post, watch the video and move on to the next website quickly. Now, in order to see your videos and read the full content, I have to click through and load the entire site. Any chance you can change it back?
Thanks
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