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This question was written in response to a three part series I did on The Art of Asking Questions. This person wanted me to offer some tangible questions to actually ask. So I will do that, because that’s such a great question…
Do you have any effective question-asking tips you would add?
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Thank you for this. Being an introvert I get scared of talking to people. But I have always wanted to change that and these are great tips to try out. My next social outing will be quite the experience 😉 Thank you!
@Stephanie, Yeah! Glad this could help you out. Look forward to hearing how it goes.
Being that my church’s single group is very inactive, I totally go to a different church’s singles group. On top of that, it isn’t even a singles group. It is a blended group of single folks and married couples; so not only do you have to come up with that first question, you have to make sure there is no ring there. Thankfully the couples usually stick very close together and that makes it easy to identify those who are not available.
Typically I can start by asking what service they attend? They have four services, we may never go to the same service, then during our discussion I have to com clean and let them know I don’t attend that church except for social extravaganzas and to see my friends there. Awkward, yet effective.
Next, where do they serve? If they aren’t serving, why not?
Now ask the work question?
Where they are from?
Make small talk!
This kind of advice is relative to any relationship, be it a friendship, intimate partner, or a colleague/boss/employee. You nailed it on the head: listening and providing honest compliments are the best ways to build lasting relationships. Not to mention, blind-folded tree climbing is an incredible trust building exercise…
I find that smiling when asking question or after is helpful. It shows the other party that you are interested in listening and happy to hear a response.
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