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How many of you made a New Year’s resolution?
How many of you have already broken those resolutions?
For those of you who made some trendy diet your resolution, let me tell you why I am anti-diet:
1. It’s not fun.
2. Everyone I know on a diet is angry.
3. My theory is our bodies’ metabolism needs to be surprised by the food it’s eating. Like one day it says, “Oh my! Carrots!” And then the next day it’s like, “Oh my! Pizza!!”
To me, portion control (as opposed to completely cutting out foods) seems the best way to go, but this isn’t a food blog and I’m always interested in hearing your opinions. Tell me why your diet makes you…
1. Have fun.
2. Not want to hammer punch people in the face.
I live in Portland, and everyone here has opinions and theories on food. You’re either vegan and have a garden between your front door and the sidewalk, or you only eat the meat of Babe the Pig, who you raised and butchered yourself in the garage.
Just like my diet dislikes, I’m not much for New Year’s resolutions either.
But if I had to pick one, it would be something I’ve been “resoluting” (yes, that’s a word, maybe) for the past number of years and will probably have to continue working on until the day I die.
And that is “assuming the best” about people.
Essentially, because of my skeptical nature and the life experiences I’ve had, it’s hard for me to approach people and assume they aren’t lying to me, trying to take advantage of me, or won’t eventually hurt me. On the other hand, there are times I completely let my guard down and trust someone way too fast, which usually results in hurt—and then I’m back to assuming everyone is an emotional swindler.
I realize I’ve touched on this principle a number of times on my site, and “Assuming Good Will” is a huge principle I’ve learned from my parents’ teachings in Love and Respect. I’ve been working on explaining more about why this topic is such a struggle for me in the book I am writing, but until that comes out this summer, I thought I would highlight a few of my posts that tackle this topic:
- Assuming the best when people make comments that annoy us
- A guy not assuming the best about women
- Assuming the best instead of labeling
- Assuming the best from people in authority over you (aka the workplace)
- Assuming the best when your friends have expectations for you that you don’t have for yourself
Love and Respect (Now) is a division of Love and Respect. Please be considerate.