Hi Friends!
Have you enjoyed this series with Normie Baby? (Another nickname that he doesn’t know I call him in my head.)
In the opening of this season finale you will hear how much of a nightmare I am after I’ve done too many videos in one day. I can barely complete a sentence.
AND THEN NORMIE MAKES ME VERY UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN HE FLIPS THE TABLES ON ME.
I almost didn’t post this video, but then thought *eh* what the hay. After talking about all y’all’s relationships, I can tell you a bit more about one of mine. But it doesn’t mean I liked it.
So listen in as I ask Normie Baby, “What do people say they wish they would have known when they got married?”
AND THEN HE SAYS…
“Would you have done the same thing seven years ago if you knew then what you know now??”
If you love ^^^ those things, then push play.
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From my heart,
Joy
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CHECK OUT THE REST OF THIS SERIES.
Seeing Through Rose-Colored Glasses–Ingredients for Entering Marriage And Staying There
Obstacles to Marriage in the 21st Century
2 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married
What Red Flags Should I Look For? Tips for Relationships and Nascar
Having a Lasting Marriage and Reaping What You Sow
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From My Heart
All of the Love and Respect Now Posts…In One Place!
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I felt awkward for me too!! Thanks Heather.
This was good, thanks Joy. It’s good to remember that there are two sides to navigate- between being too picky looking for the perfect person, and being too hasty and just picking any ol’ christian person.
I sometimes feel the pressure of “am I being too picky?” and “they say you can learn to love someone” – but then you’re right, you need some commonality otherwise it *will* be a heck of a lot more difficult than it needs to be. You’re great Joy, thanks for posting this.
Yes – good thoughts. That’s why it’s so important to have people around us who KNOW our propensity to respond a certain way in relationships and they can help us sort the crazy from the wise. (-:
Sad it’s over- such a great series! I can totally relate to that temptation to jump at the first guy who goes to church. ha! As hard as it is to find a guy who loves God, I’m not willing to marry the first guy who does. A genuine love for God and His Kingdom is top priority, but not the end all! Love does NOT conquer all!
Glad you enjoyed the series, Jennifer!
Joy, you are so right about jumping into a relationship with a guy just because he goes to church! I’ve found often times even ohers in he church think that is the only requirement and that you should go out with a guy just because he’s single in church and I’m single in church. But I’ve dated guys who were “in the church” who turned out to be jerks. So there’s more to it and I’m willing to wait on it all. Thanks for the great series!
Hey Nicole – thanks for commenting. I think you would LOVE this book. https://loveandrespectnow.com/2010/08/stuff-i-like-jerks/
None of us want to go through trials, but at the end of them always comes an opportunity to help others. Your trials have led to this ministry which I and so many others are grateful for. As Romans 5 states, “We rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
Your sufferings produced your wonderful character and has introduced hope to many of us. I am also grateful that you sought out counseling to move through the suffering instead of falling into the destructive habit of bitterness that so easily negates God’s plans.
BUT I HATE ALL MEN NATHAN! Haha, jk. This was really beautiful and encouraging. Truly. It has been a long journey and I do pray that all my silly videos and writings over the last 5 years have helped. I think working on them myself has been some of the best healing I could have gotten. Again, I’m honored by your words.
A very nice series and you didn’t squirm too much in the beginning of this one 😉 I agree with the comments of not simply jumping because someone is a Christian, that’s not the only measure of compatibility. Now you need to go on a speaking tour to the Christian colleges and get loud with this message! I was so saddened to find out that some couples I had known went to talk with some staffers and counselors and were told that since they were both there and Christians and dating, it was most certainly God’s will. One couple was pushed toward marriage using this logic after only 3 months of dating. Thankfully, they sought out other voices of counsel too!
Thanks for advocating wisdom in a very relevant way!
So much wisdom in this!!! Anytime I hear someone say, “All you need is love,” I can’t help but point out that it’s completely untrue. Thanks for posting.
I’m so glad you posted this! I’d be interested to hear (or read) more about the research he mentioned about habit patterns (almost typed Hobbit patterns… I’d be interested in those as well). What kind of habits would make or break (so to speak) a relationship? What kind of habits would be most beneficial for a happy marriage down the road?
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Loved the series Joy! Felt very awkward for you in this particular post 🙂 but well done for posting it! We all need reminders that love does not conquer all.
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