One of the side effects to the delay or absence of marriage in our culture is that many of us have had strong connections with people who we didn’t end up with forever. (This is by no means a bad thing if we choose to treat the people we date well.)
And while many of us can move on and let go, the reality is that as humans, I believe God designed us to connect and be known by people so it can be difficult to let go even when we need to.
Romantically or otherwise, there is such a difference between looking at someone whom you know nothing about and looking at a person you’ve been vulnerable with or shared a life-changing experience with.
I definitely have thoughts about the cons of hanging onto past loves (I’m not condoning or encouraging it whatsoever). And even though some of my friends felt this video was way too emo and contrived, I appreciated it because it shows the difference between knowing and not knowing: stranger and friend.
Watch, journal, or discuss with friends:
Observe and take note at the way the human body has a physical reaction to the emotion of love and being known.
Romantic, family, or friend—are there people in your life that you’ve really let know you? What were the pros and cons? How have those experiences colored how you let other people into your life or keep others out?
Who are the people who can look into your eyes and understand what you’ve been through? Are there people you’ve taken the time to truly get to know?
We were made to know and be known, my friends.
