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Have you ever made the mistake of making a global issue out of a situation that simply needed clarification?
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i am so guilty of making global issues out of small things. and i think my heart is more sensitive than it used to be, and probably more than it should be. and it’s when i take things personally that i tend to make global issues out of them. i need to work on that but don’t necessarily know how to develop thicker skin while keeping a soft heart. and i definitely need to work on my communication skills in relationships — to lovingly and respectfully bring up things that hurt me while keeping them in the proper perspective.
Lisa – I love when we can make light of our weaknesses – and know that we are created with the capacity for change!
Alece – I seriously just failed at this 15 minutes ago. An area of sensitivity was pricked and I addressed the issue 10 minutes sooner than I should have. I even came to the realization on the phone with the person that it was my insecurity that was making me feel like such a doofus. Thankfully that person was full of grace!
Maybe he feels that it’s important to work while you’re at work and not hang out with your significant other. Maybe he feels like your career is more important to you than he is and if you really respected him, you wouldn’t work a shift that 48 hours long. Maybe he thinks that if you can go away for a long weekend right before a 48 hour shift he can actually make other plans.Maybe I’m thinking of running the other way. Maybe I’m doing an epic face palm at the moment. Maybe we should try on some pink or blue glasses. Maybe. I don’t know, maybe.
@ Aaron, Read your post. Somebody does care, I can see and hear that u are hurtin’. Glad you shared your thoughts with us. Sounds like you are in the valley of decision. Let me encourage you to chose the long term blessing in love and respect!
Praying for you in your distress.
1 Peter 5:6-7 “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
“Put it in reverse.” Great advise.
PS. The intro to this series always cracks me up — I love it!
So glad to know I am not the only one who does this on occas.
Dear Joy,
I have recently started talking to a guy and after two weeks and one date, was told that he was going to be moving. Prior to moving he asked me if I would wait for him. In response to his question I advised him that I would wait for a man if I was in a committed relationship. One day while at work he tried to call me and let me know that he was leaving. Unfortunately due to my job, I missed his call and received his message and text. When I contacted him back he advised that he was on his way and that he would call later. At this point I wanted to know his intentions since the only statements that he has said was that “I like you and want to know you”, so I sent him a text asking him why I should wait. Again receiving the same response and that we would talk about it later. The next day I was out with a male friend and this is where it starts. I believe that he feels disrespected and that I cheated on him. Since then there has been a lot of hateful words stated by him and I’m still trying to get close. How do I show him that I didn’t understand that his intentions and wish to move beyond this point towards a relationship?
Yours Truly,
Jennifer
lisa thinks...
The Blue answer: YES.
The Pink answer: Have I ever made a global issue out of a situation that simply needed clarification? Guilty!!! Have I ever been known to make a mountain out of a mole hill? Absolutely! At times have I been a drama queen? Without a doubt! Emotional? Si, Senorita! Prone to being reactionary rather than a reflective listener? SOOO what if I am?? 😉
The Spirit offers comfort to us who have an over awareness of how much we need to grow: Healing is here! (Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. James 5:16) 🙂 Thanks Joy for an opportunity to laugh, unpack, cleanse and purge!
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