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Many of you have spoken or written to me about your fears of relationships, which have often been caused by the unhealthy examples you have seen modeled around you. Many of you, like me, have experienced deep relational pain. Many of you, like my parents, come from broken and unstable childhood homes.
Your sincerity in asking, “How can I heal from all these wounds?” or, “How can I not do what my parents did?” always puts a passion in my heart because I desire that you know the Truth.
Healing always takes time. And even when healing comes, there often are scars left behind. My pastor once talked about how physical scars from our physical wounds leave physical marks that may not be pretty, but the skin of the scar is actually stronger than nonscarred skin.
Kanye West also said something similar about the stuff that doesn’t kill us making us stronger…buuuuut he’s not my favorite source.
Parents always have an impact on us, regardless of how much we may try to ignore it. Both the presence and absence of parental influence will make a difference in how we live and see the world. But the important thing to remember is that this impact does not mean control. And we have a choice over what we let control us.
The video I want to share today is a story that has given me, and now thousands of others, answers to these questions.
As many of you know, my father started the marriage ministry Love and Respect, and he receives many invitations to speak about relationships. During the past year, however, I have been encouraging him to share more about his childhood and his own journey of how he became so passionate about relationships. He had the perfect opportunity when, the night before this talk given to 12,500 students, he was asked if he could scrap his planned speech and instead talk about his life. So this, my friends, is what he shared just a number of hours later. It’s straight from his heart. It makes me cry because I know my father. I know how honest and truthful he is being, and I don’t think this is the easiest for him to share…
My prayer is that his story will give you not only hope in the midst of your “how” questions but also a Truth you will believe for your future.
You are not alone in your pain and questions.
What do you think it looks like to trust Christ, while honestly processing your pain?
Who are the wounded healers that have impacted you?
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