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Working in a predominantly male environment, how do I not become a “mini-man” like many of my female co-workers?
First off Carly, I want to say that you are adequate for the job, because you got the job.
Often we misinterpret others perceptions of us, based on our own insecurities.
You cannot do anything about someone’s perceptions, or misperceptions of you, all you can control is how you respond to that person.
The term “mini-men” reminds me of the phrase “small man syndrome”; not saying I condone this phrase, but what it infers, is that a man who is feeling insecure in a certain area (often being smaller than the rest of his friends) will overcompensate…
…and unfortunately everybody can see it from a mile away.
My father says that successful working women are comfortable and confident enough in who they are to not have to over compensate. They know they are most powerful as women when they understand a man’s deepest need: respect.
How, you ask?
One way to do this is to consciously avoid showing contempt, which in the work place, often breeds out of a woman’s feelings of inferiority. That’s why I believe you see many of the women you work with, becoming “mini-men.”
If either one of us, male or female, tries to overcompensate, it just doesn’t work well, especially in the workplace. So let me encourage you to…
…live into your femininity, the way God designed you, be strong and confident in that. You got the job.
From one working woman to another,
p.s. Cartoon unicorn in this video was drawn by my friend Julian. Check out his funny website The Daily Corn.
Have you struggled with a similar issue in your work place? How did you handle it?
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