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One of the most common phrases I’ve written in response to the Ask Joy emails I’ve received over the years is, “God is not trying to trick you.” I believe this old post–which I’ve updated for today–is an example of what triggers this type of question. But it also gets at the deeper issue we all need to face when we’re left wondering if we’ve misunderstood “God’s leading” in our life.
We may even wonder, “God, did you lie to me? Do you even care?”
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First of all, I’m sorry. Not only do you have confusion with God, but you are probably feeling alone and reeling from the last 18-month investment you just made in another human’s life.
The reality is people can make choices that may be right and may be wrong, but we might not ever know why.
Regarding God’s orchestration, the mystery becomes intertwined with our limited human understanding of the way He works. It’s a deeper theological question of whether God dictates everything we do or whether He works in the midst of human beings and their choices, be they good or bad.
People will always have different theories about this, but my encouragement is for you to ask yourself what YOU believe to be true.
Questions for you to consider:
- They’ve walked away, but does that mean God didn’t orchestrate the meeting for some reason?
- When you feel pain, how does it affect your view of God?
- Can things be true about God even when our circumstances seem to communicate they might not be?
My human understanding of relationships feels the pain of your loss.
My spiritual understanding of God believes He has the power to redeem this situation and your heart–and I say that without trying to sound trite in the midst of your heartache. But His orchestration may simply sound different from the symphony you thought you heard.
So my encouragement for you is to embrace the pain you feel right now. Engage your community and keep your truth-telling friends close. But, most importantly, ask yourself what you believe to be true about God and read Scripture to see what He says to be true about Himself.
Asking these bigger questions in the midst of your pain will help shape the lens through which you see God. Because, trust me, there will be many more things in this life that don’t make sense and sound a bit flat.
Know that you are not alone in your questions and sorrow.
From my heart,
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