Last week I heard the little “pop” sound on my computer and realized someone was “chatting me.” It was an old friend who had just recently broken up with his girlfriend. After e-chatting for a bit, I decided to run one of my little theories past him. He resonated with the portion I shared and said I should write it up. So here goes…
I wasn’t going to post this “Ask Joy” response because I was really tired when I recorded it and I hope whoever asked the question doesn’t feel like I am un-empathetic…it’s just those lazy eyes that kick in when I am fatigued.
I promise.
A video reflecting on a recent lecture I attended on how to write a Christian Romance Novel. The women were sweet and gracious, but I had a tough time swallowing some of their instructions.
Ok, I might have actually gagged a little. Read more
Trying everything in my power to not laugh for this one.
Bless you boy…wherever and whoever you are. I appreciate your boldness and honest feelings in asking this question. We just happen to differ.
Oh, and I am a woman…just in case that wasn’t clear. Read more
Last week my friend Lisa said, “You have a lot of people telling you about their relationships, don’t you…” I do. And I enjoy it because I am passionate about it, but it can also be hard to hear all the brokenness that is keeping people from successful relationships. I pray that being a listening ear and attempting to give advice to my friends actually helps and isn’t just another “voice to a conversation.” Sometimes we talk and converse so much that we forget to …
From a single Mom: “Can men see me for who I really am, or are they always going to see me as “mommy me?”
Tomorrow I have the privilege of speaking at Pepperdine University with Dr. Ken Canfield on a fun topic.
Porn.
“Ah, I have picked up magic in her nearness.” –Poet Ezra Pound I don’t vomit that much. In fact, prior to puking on Monday night after the final episode of The Bachelor, I can tell you the time, place and scenario of my last barf. It might have been the food I was eating, I’ll give you that…but all I know is that the moment I began watching the episode my stomach started turning. I have only seen the last few weeks so if my …
Is there power in submitting or does submission always = loss of power?
Have you ever had someone tell you they “suggest” you do things differently? But “suggest” probably means your method was moronic?
I thought this blog was finished when my friend came by my office this morning. I decided to include her story. She shared how she has been hurt by our Christian community here in Portland. I asked her why and she expressed how words had been said to her in harsh ways.
Writing is something I am still getting the hang of. I would rather sit on my couch with you and verbally process my thoughts and have you say, “You’re crazy, man” or start weeping and move into the fetal position because I just nailed your deepest darkest fear. Oops.
But since that won’t happen today…here are my thoughts…
I had lunch with a couple guy friends this week. One was a thirty-something year old bass player who had his first relationship a couple years ago. He had focused on school and music for many years. As a Christian he believed the Lord would bring him the right woman when the time came. After reaching thirty and having zero dating experience with no woman on the horizon, he started to question if he had made the right choice. Where is the wife he trusted …
I now know why I fell in love with my ex-boyfriend: He was a hugger. Ok, I fell in love with him for more than that. He made me laugh, doted on me, and had really strong arms. What? That’s not shallow. What would be shallow is if I told you I fell in love with him because he had a nose that was almost as adorable as mine. But back to the hugging thing… Fun Fact of the Day: Oxytocin is a chemical that …
When I come into contact with people who’s writing or speaking I admire, I try to play it cool, but it never works. Like yesterday, I was at Pepperdine University and had the privilege of spending the entire day with a relationship researcher and author who has impacted me greatly. Before noon, I had already said the following: 1) “I read your book a year and a half ago and then I Facebooked your daughter.” 2) “We are your stalkers for the day…we will be …
“Some worship music is like spiritual masturbation for women.”
“Did she just say…”
“Yeah, I think she did.”
The greatest fear I have, in relation to a man, is to be raped. In my mind, I have played out what I would do. Run. Scream. Kick. Bite.
I imagine and hope that an unnatural super-power-esque strength would be unleashed.
I want to be a heart surgeon. On the day that I pick up the scalpel, I will also crack open Heart Surgery for Dummies. “C’mon Leon, shhh…close your eyes. It says here the patient will appear to be sleeping. Yeah, do that, just start counting sheep. Oh, wait, unbutton your shirt first….Ok so, if I was lying face up on a table my heart would be on what side?…right…ok…got it. This is going to be so easy. Shhh Leon, just relax.” I flew to …
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