I want to answer this question in three parts. Let’s be honest, it’s all finished and ready to go, but we are all A.D.D. and can’t handle reading anything longer tha…I wonder if I should update my Facebook status to “catching up on my blog reading!” Welcome back. As I was saying. Here is the beginning of three short parts… Ask Joy How do I talk to my boyfriend about his temptations? I haven’t seen anything or experienced anything with him that makes me concerned, …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) My favorite part of this video is the final call to action: “How are we going to deal with it?” Men and women – we all have wounds and fears. It’s so important to process our wounds and unpack our fears. But will we stay there forever? At what point do we say “yes” to trusting God’s word and relaxing in His control …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Women: Are you aware of your facial expressions? One of the things my father recommends is for women during a fight to go look at their faces a mirror and ask themselves, “Does anyone else look at him this way?” Men: I know that I feel more loved and known in a relationship if a guy figures out what I want or …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Men: Do you agree with what the men said about her respecting who you choose as friends? In what other ways have women challenged your ability to make decisions? Do you think that was their intention? Women: If you have legitimate concerns about his friends, how have you handled it? Has it been effective? Why might your words wound him?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) I thought I was just being polite when asking a guy if he “could” do something for me, but apparently the difference between “could” and “would” is huge to guys. Questioning a man’s competency can cut him to his core – but he may not show it. Question Men: Can you think of something a woman said to you (jokingly or seriously) that made you …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Men: Have you ever been asked by a woman how you feel most honored and respected? Dishonored and respected? Did you feel awkward sharing? Women: Have you ever asked these questions of the men in your life? What was the response? Does the idea of asking feel awkward or uncomfortable? Why do you think?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions Have you written a respect letter? Does this feel weird to you? How do you define a gift? Have you ever been given a gift you didn’t deserve? How did you respond?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions Was I too harsh? What would you have told her? Men: If a woman is nice to you but has an attitude towards other people, how do you perceive her?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions If you think a man is acting childish, is it possible that he feels like you are treating him like a child? In relationship, how would you recommend treating each other with respect and communicating with respect even when it doesn’t seem fair? How do you humbly confront childish behavior without being patronizing?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions How have you turned someone down? Why didn’t you give them a chance? How have you been turned down? Did you feel like they gave you a chance?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Let me be clear. Respect does not mean foolishly staying in an unhealthy relationship. However, there are wise and respectful ways to remove oneself from an unhealthy situation or confront a hurtful miscommunication. Questions Have your insecurities ever caused you to misinterpret someone’s statement? How did you respond?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Have you ever made the mistake of making a global issue out of a situation that simply needed clarification?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions Men: How were you taught as a kid to treat women? Women: How were you taught as a kid to treat men?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions How do you think fear impacts relationships? Is there a solution? Do you fear the word respect?
Yes you read that correctly. Part 1 of 15. Most of these videos are going to be short and sweet. The first ten videos will be Ask Joy Q&A on the topic of respect. The final five videos will give us insight into the topic of respect from six men who listened to the Ask Joy responses live. Why? If you didn’t know, I work for my parents’ marriage ministry called Love and Respect based on the Bible verse in Ephesians 5:33. We believe that men and …
Ask Joy Is it normal that I am _____ years old, and never dated? My Response “Normal” is subjective. Maybe you’ve: 1) Never dated. 2) Haven’t dated in ten years. 3) Your only date consisted of your cousin being forced to take you to your senior prom in your Uncle Fred’s mint Toyota Tercel. It’s normal to feel not normal. Especially when what we long for seems to be magnified in everyone else’s life. When you desire to be in relationship, EVERYONE is in relationship. Even the …
Ask Joy What if you thought the guy was right and believed that God orchestrated the meeting? But he’s now walked away, after one-and-a-half years? My Response People have free will, which means we won’t always understand why they do what they do. Regarding God’s orchestration, the mystery becomes intertwined with our limited human understanding. It’s a deeper theological question of whether God dictates everything we do or whether He works in the midst of human beings and their choices, be they good or bad. People will …
Ask Joy How can I stop from getting emotionally attached to boys on Facebook? It has become a vicious cycle for me with different guys. Please help me! My Response First I want to honor you for being introspective and aware that this is happening to you. My guess is you’re not alone, but most people aren’t intuitive enough to recognize. Well done. However, if you believe it’s unhealthy and “vicious,” I think most people would conclude you should shut down Facebook. Trust me, the …
Ask Joy Why do women want to get married? As a woman, I don’t grasp it myself and certainly could never see getting married before I’m 25 or how it would be important. My Response Guess what is so cool? You don’t have to get married! Just make sure you don’t make flippant comments without thinking about the repercussions of them. Men will hear your mantra of not wanting to get married, and if at age 25 you all of a sudden decide to change …
Ask Joy If I am 23, how old is too old for the person I am dating in your opinion? My Response 93. You want them to at least remember who you are. Obviously there are different factors that come into play if you are coming from different generations. But if the person you want to date is older or younger, the bigger questions to ask are: Do the wise people around me say we are a good match? Do they support our relationship? If …
It’s another “Monday-One-Day” and if you missed The One: Part 1 – “Is There Only One” make sure to check it out. In today’s video there is a little less wind machine and a little more male vocals. Yes, I am an alto by birth. So, what do you think? P.S. Post I referenced in the video: Can Anxious Andy Commit? WATCH: Part 3: What if there is NO one?
Some of you ask me questions that I feel I can answer in 140 characters or less. Yes, I value your questions that much. Truly, I do wish I could sit with you face-to-face and answer your questions—no matter how weird they (or you) are. Since I can’t, Twitter allows me to answer some in a quick way that might give you some direction, make you think, make you laugh, or make you want to send a bomb to my house. Please don’t. “But Joy, …
Ask Joy I’m turning 30 soon and I am single. All of my close relationships are with couples. Ideally I would love to be in a community where men and women, older and younger, married and single, connect. But because it seems as though my friends have just kind of accepted me as the single girl, no one seems interested or available to help connect me with any single men. Am I expecting too much from my close friends? My Response I admire that you …
Many people (myself included) have asked, “Joy, what do you think about the one?” * Over the next three Mondays, or “Monday – One – Day” as I have been calling it in my head, I will post videos with my personal thoughts on the one. Part 1 – Is There Only One? Part 2 – How Do I Know? (If this is the one.) Part 3 – What If There Is No One? (Contrary to popular belief, we did not order wind machines for …
End of Part 3: …Sex can become casual and free of intimacy for both of us, but how it gets to that point is through different hijackings and perversions of our most intimate design. How are we hijacked? I’ll tell you tomorrow… * Part 4: I believe an understanding of our different designs can hijack sex… It’s my understanding that the visual environment we live in can be more of a temptation for men, and I want women to be aware and have compassion and …
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