Today you can see an interview I did with fellow Westmont alum, Paul Angone. He has launched a website to talk about his upcoming book, All Groan Up. In that book he discusses his post-college journey…aka, “now what?!” Paul has a heart to help 20-somethings talk about living in the “now what” and is doing so by covering a myriad of topics. One of topics is, relationships. I was honored to chat with him, and can only pray that the skype demons that froze Paul’s …
Ask Joy I don’t think it’s fair that my boyfriend at college might go home some weekends to see his family, when I can’t see mine because they live too far away. I don’t want him going home without me. What should I do? My Response If I were talking with your boyfriend, I wouldn’t tell him to break up with you…yet. Question Okay, so it’s easy to laugh at this question, but if we’re honest with ourselves, we’ve all had moments of responding with pouting …
Ask Joy How do I set good emotional boundaries, or know when and how to share things in a relationship? My Response Another video in the cemetery…shocker. And a couple of my personal stories. Question Do you sometimes question whether or not the Spirit will respond when you invite him into a situation? Is it possible that He is there, but in a way that you weren’t expecting or able to recognize? What has been your experience?
Ask Joy I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks, and last night he confided in me what he considers to be his darkest secret. It’s weird, and it freaks me out. How much would it still freak me out if this relationship were to result in marriage? My Response So I took a little “creative license” with this one…Enjoy! Question Seriously…what could it be?? I know you guys have some weird ideas in you. And on a more serious note, how …
I just recieved this text from my friend, Ryan: “It’s your birthday according to Facebook. Is this true?” Yes. According to some, you don’t exist if you don’t have a Facebook page. Well, I am here to tell you that my mother can confirm the labor pains that she endured on June 13th, 1982 when this little bundle of screaming joy, (or attempting to scream since I had the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck) graced the world. Facebook – you don’t define my existence. But this …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) My favorite part of this video is the final call to action: “How are we going to deal with it?” Men and women – we all have wounds and fears. It’s so important to process our wounds and unpack our fears. But will we stay there forever? At what point do we say “yes” to trusting God’s word and relaxing in His control …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Women: Are you aware of your facial expressions? One of the things my father recommends is for women during a fight to go look at their faces a mirror and ask themselves, “Does anyone else look at him this way?” Men: I know that I feel more loved and known in a relationship if a guy figures out what I want or …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Men: Do you agree with what the men said about her respecting who you choose as friends? In what other ways have women challenged your ability to make decisions? Do you think that was their intention? Women: If you have legitimate concerns about his friends, how have you handled it? Has it been effective? Why might your words wound him?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) I thought I was just being polite when asking a guy if he “could” do something for me, but apparently the difference between “could” and “would” is huge to guys. Questioning a man’s competency can cut him to his core – but he may not show it. Question Men: Can you think of something a woman said to you (jokingly or seriously) that made you …
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Men: Have you ever been asked by a woman how you feel most honored and respected? Dishonored and respected? Did you feel awkward sharing? Women: Have you ever asked these questions of the men in your life? What was the response? Does the idea of asking feel awkward or uncomfortable? Why do you think?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions Have you written a respect letter? Does this feel weird to you? How do you define a gift? Have you ever been given a gift you didn’t deserve? How did you respond?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions Was I too harsh? What would you have told her? Men: If a woman is nice to you but has an attitude towards other people, how do you perceive her?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions If you think a man is acting childish, is it possible that he feels like you are treating him like a child? In relationship, how would you recommend treating each other with respect and communicating with respect even when it doesn’t seem fair? How do you humbly confront childish behavior without being patronizing?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question: Guys – How do you feel honored or respected by men or women? Women – Have you ever asked a guy what makes him feel honored or respected? Disrespected?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions How have you turned someone down? Why didn’t you give them a chance? How have you been turned down? Did you feel like they gave you a chance?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Let me be clear. Respect does not mean foolishly staying in an unhealthy relationship. However, there are wise and respectful ways to remove oneself from an unhealthy situation or confront a hurtful miscommunication. Questions Have your insecurities ever caused you to misinterpret someone’s statement? How did you respond?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Question Have you ever made the mistake of making a global issue out of a situation that simply needed clarification?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions Men: How were you taught as a kid to treat women? Women: How were you taught as a kid to treat men?
Respect State of The Union Watch the intro to find out what this is all about: RSOTU Intro (1 of 15) Questions How do you think fear impacts relationships? Is there a solution? Do you fear the word respect?
Yes you read that correctly. Part 1 of 15. Most of these videos are going to be short and sweet. The first ten videos will be Ask Joy Q&A on the topic of respect. The final five videos will give us insight into the topic of respect from six men who listened to the Ask Joy responses live. Why? If you didn’t know, I work for my parents’ marriage ministry called Love and Respect based on the Bible verse in Ephesians 5:33. We believe that men and …
As I said in the video, the worst thing you can do is put yourself in a box. Five years ago, my strengths were Activator, Relator, Command, Strategic, and Restorative. God designed us with certain strengths, but He doesn’t limit us. He created us with the ability to grow and evolve as transformative creatures in Christ. But I like this type of test because it helps me identify what I am bringing to the table when it comes to work, ministry, and relationships. My strengths as …
Don’t shed a tear because it’s the final “Monday-One-Day”. You can always re-watch Parts 1 & 2 every single day until YouTube implodes. The One: Part 1 – “Is There Only One” The One: Part 2 – “How Do I Know?” In Part 3 I will tackle how I have felt called to respond when it feels like there is NO-one. So what do you think?
It’s another “Monday-One-Day” and if you missed The One: Part 1 – “Is There Only One” make sure to check it out. In today’s video there is a little less wind machine and a little more male vocals. Yes, I am an alto by birth. So, what do you think? P.S. Post I referenced in the video: Can Anxious Andy Commit? WATCH: Part 3: What if there is NO one?
Many people (myself included) have asked, “Joy, what do you think about the one?” * Over the next three Mondays, or “Monday – One – Day” as I have been calling it in my head, I will post videos with my personal thoughts on the one. Part 1 – Is There Only One? Part 2 – How Do I Know? (If this is the one.) Part 3 – What If There Is No One? (Contrary to popular belief, we did not order wind machines for …
Ask Joy What do you think about dating someone who doesn’t KNOW Jesus? My Response Like the background music on this video? The intro to all of my videos is by my friend Ragnar and the music played during my Ask Joy answer is by the super talented husband and wife duo, The Woodlands. So grateful for uber talented friends. 2012 Update: My friend Renea wrote a great post on the same topic…CLICK HERE
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